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HandPie4Me t1_jegats7 wrote

Reply to comment by Orange_comfort in This braille Hotwheel by SovietImposter

Sorry, I think my post needed a /s. There is nothing wrong with white, and plenty of toy cars have normal writing on them - why is this different? I know some ow vision people can only see shades, so white is likely helpful for them.

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mfruitfly t1_jegat9a wrote

Reply to [21F] Me and my BF [22F] are incompatible but he refuses to leave me, it's making me feel drained. by 100unskippableads

You just do it. I know, not helpful, so I will break it down.

First, assess what you share that you need to deal with. If you have stuff of his to return, if he has stuff of yours you want back, if he has access to your money or keys to your place. For the latter items- change the passwords/get rid of accounts he has access too, and try and get the keys back a day or two before you break up with an excuse (friend is stopping by so I need to give them the spare). Also take this time to collect your shit- quietly- from his place.

Second, break up. Go to his place, with his stuff, and break it off. Keep it short and simple "this isn't working for me, as we discussed X, Y, Z, and I am ending the relationship." Now, this is where it gets hard, because he is going to argue with you, and you simply do not participate. I learned this from a boss about firing people; you have made the decision, you don't need to justify it, you don't need to prove them wrong. Let him say what he needs to say- within reason- and you simply nod and show empathy, and end with- well I disagree and have made my decision. Sidenote: If you worry he will be angry/violent, break up in a public place instead where you have your own transportation. A walk in the park or a beer garden is good for this, not a restaurant where you have to wait for the check! Coffee shops are okay but sometimes can be very quiet. Basically, a public place where you can actually have the conversation without feeling like you have an audience, and where you can escape.

Third, do not respond to attempts at communication. You don't have to start out by blocking him, but you need to commit to "I need full space apart for awhile before even figuring out if we can be friends." If he texts you about very practical things- do you have my hoodie- you can respond and keep it brief, no small talk, solve the problem, end convo. If he starts harassing you or you think you are caving, then you silence the convo or block him. I find blocking hard because I worry it was harsh (I liked this person at one point, they weren't abusive, it just didn't work out), so just control your responses, don't get dragged in to conversation, and ask him to stop or you will block him if he is like bombing you with "i miss you."

Fourth, sorry you are a woman. Because of that, I have to tell you the following: Besides breaking up in a public/safe place, you also need to be careful for the few weeks after breaking up. Maybe stay with a friend/family if you live alone or have someone stay with you. Vary your schedule a little if you can (aka, you always leave for work at 8am, maybe go in early and get coffee for a few day). Always be very vigilant of coming home and leaving home, same with work, school, or other places you frequent. Some of this is good breakup advice regardless of safety- go visit friends in a city over, have a slumber party and eat sugar, stay with family- and yes, is this all a little nuts? Sure, but it is better to spend two weeks being a bit paranoid and then laughing it off than it is to be...on Forensic Files.

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LochFarquar t1_jegasf4 wrote

Reply to comment by CalvinSays in ELI5: "Grain Fed" vs "Grass Fed". Grain is the fruit of grass. by JessicaLain

>There are mild nutritional differences but it's not right to say one is "healthier" than the other.

FWIW, this is the primary benefit I've heard -- that grass fed has a better profile of fats (more omega 3 versus omega 6, I believe), but that's always seemed strange, since someone really worried about their fat profile would be much better off eating something like salmon instead of fancy beef.

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Target880 t1_jegarjy wrote

Reply to ELI5: How do large ships parked themselves at docks before invention of tug boats? by crenshawcrane

Ships that existed before thug boats would not be considered large today, you could pull them with smaller boats that people rowed or buy using ropes to land or to an anchor that was stopped by a smaller boat.

The option that was commonly used was to drop anchor and load and unload via smaller bots and barges.

The fest steam-powered tug boat was made in 1801. If you look at the war ships of the Napoleonic war more specifically the Battle of Trafalgar HMS Victory, Lord Nelsons' flagship was one of the largest in the British fleet. It was 69 meters long and 16 meters wide and has a 3,500 tons displacement. The vast majority of ships om that fleet or in general was not that larg.

The largest passenger ship in 1831 was SS Royal William at 1,370 ton and 49 meters long.

In 1901 it was RMS Celtic at 20,904 ton and 214 meters.

Today it is Wonder of the Seas 236,857 ton and 362 meters.

All of these ships are after the invention of the steam-powered tugboat. So with today standard that war not large ships before tugboats.

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Ilela t1_jegarh1 wrote

Reply to comment by TwinkyOctopus in A nun is praying in her convent in rural Ireland when there is a sudden bang and a cloud of green smoke by stupidrobots

I don't know how joke goes exactly but a guy and a nun are in a bus. Guy likes how nun looks so he asks Busdriver how he get to know her. Busdriver says that she goes to graveyard every night and he could have his chance then. The guy comes late at night to graveyard and sees nun praying for the deceased. Somehow they end up having sex without guy confirming it's the nun. After the deed, nun reveals herself to be gay Busdriver.

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Indecks9999 t1_jegar8b wrote

Reply to I (40M) slept with my best friend (32F) by [deleted]

You set yourselves up to do this, It was not an accident.

It was a series of bad choices leading up to the cheating for the both of you.

At this point I think you both deserve each other. Let your SO's know and let them make their own choice and you problems will be solved

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tempaccountinterval t1_jegaqyp wrote

Reply to What are some r/movies tropes? by HotSwordfish23

You would really enjoy r/movies circle jerk sub dedicated to this. I think it was at its peak when BvS was out and there was some crap about some online reviewer and Zod's snapped neck. That aside, any big famous filmmaker name except Nolan and Cameron will get you upvotes on this sub. Avoid dissing or giving personal bad opinions about movies which are rated very highly.

Always only diss on movies that are rated poorly, rated mid or by a blockbuster director.

ITs okay to hate michael bay movies or any big box office hit, except early marvel movies. Its okay to diss on snyder, big no no on indie films and a24.

Wes anderson movies are ALWAYS GREAT. Big snoozefest movies are usually wins on r/movies. Dramatic acting always works.

Its nice to say comedy actors doign serious roles is nice - appreciating that gives upvotes.

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