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SugarGlitterkiss t1_jeh3xy6 wrote

Reply to comment by whatcanitellyaboy in (Serious) What are some good responses to someone you haven’t seen in 45 yrs who thinks you are the same person you were at 16? by whatcanitellyaboy

It's not like you have to convince them of anything, or even really discuss it if you don't want to. Stick to the general, "We're not teenagers anymore", "Obviously I've changed since I was a kid", "Time moves on", or even just, "LOL, no." Then change the subject.

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SVZ0zAflBhUXXyKrF5AV t1_jeh3x8b wrote

Reply to How do you get dogs to love you? by pull-up-capy

Don't try to force it to happen and don't resort to bribing with treats and food all the time. Bits of food can be used in the right circumstances. Treat them like a dog, not as a human. Be mindful of your personality, attitude and your body language. Be especially mindful of their personal space.

Animals can read people like a book. They do it all the time, even when we may not realise we are communicating anything. We have to be mindful to not accidentally communicate the wrong thing.

Be consistent. Try and learn the basics of how dogs think and act, what makes them tick.

I think it is really important that we learn to listen to animals. They do talk to us in their own way through their body language and sounds. It's up to us to learn to listen and understand.

Just imagine if you and I just met and you are tired and have had a rough day. Now imagine if I totally ignored everything you tried to say or do and ignored your personal space and got right up in your face. You'd hate it and resent me.

Animals really appreciate calm, quiet, relaxed, aware and assertive leaders. By assertive I don't mean a bossy iron fisted tyrant. Any weak or vulnerable animals in the group will really appreciate such a leader who can look out for them. Depending on the animal they may even run and hide behind you if they are frightened.

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I imagine I don't need to say this, but either way I just wanted to make this crystal clear about the word assertive:
Being a calm and assertive leader is radically different from an angry person taking their temper out on someone who hasn't got a clue what's going on.

Do not get angry and do not take your temper or frustrations out on animals if you're having a bad day. All it teaches them is to fear you. They're not punchbags for relieving stress.

Trying to get to know animals who have learned to fear humans is difficult and tragic. It is very rewarding when they finally realise that you're a good person that they do not have to constantly fear, that they can be your friend.

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bigshoe_cansada t1_jeh3wip wrote

Reply to comment by I-love-rainbows in What would you do if you found out your girlfriend watches porn behind your back? by I-love-rainbows

We were best friends even before we started dating, so we've had conversations about topics that some may consider taboo. However, if she were to develop an interest in pornography or something similar, I would need some time to process it. Given that we are both women, it is a... sensitive subject.

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TopGreenBanana t1_jeh3w3l wrote

Reply to Has anyone been to Gordon Ramsay's Hells Kitchen? What was it like? by Bigntallnerd

I was able to score an early reservation there a couple years ago. Our table was right by the kitchen so it was a busy spot but loved watching them all work. My mom and I both got the three course meal with Beef Wellingtons and Toffee Puddings. We also got the mushrooms and macaroni and cheese. It was soo much food! Delicious but too much.. We spent about 350 dollars. I ordered a martini there that comes with a message from Gordon. I was hoping for something really nasty and mean but it was just a printed piece of paper calling a steak sooo raw. I was disappointed in that. The coolest part of the night was buying a chef’s coat at their gift shop.

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