Recent comments in /f/Connecticut

thesbaine t1_j4mw18x wrote

I'm all for recording town meetings and (scheduled) interactions with town employees. Transparency is good for our democracy.

What isn't good or helpful is busting into someones office unannounced, shoving a camera/phone in their face, and rattle of questions. It's stupid.

That's not a first amendment thing. That's just being a dick.

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azathot t1_j4mkhwt wrote

I have ton of experience and insight into this area, my son is going to graduate this summer, and we were told this was never going to happen.

We're in Middletown, our experience started out with Moody School telling us our child was weird and he couldn't be in school. As it turns out this is quite illegal. The school requested a "mental" evaluation, where they paid for an expert, that rendered an opinion that no only turned out for completely false, but favored the school. This started a battle that lasted a few years and to the dismissal of the principal.

We had access to the Yale Child Center, which is one of the leading Autism research centers in the world (check out their robotics work for non-verbal, low functioning children, it's amazing.) We had a parallel report and evaluation done and this proved to be a keystone in our continual fight over the next twelve years.

Once your child has been identified, you will need that paperwork to deal with the school district. Our son attended Benhaven for a few years until he was ready to start transitioning, with a Para, into regular school. So what was needed in between? Here's a quick guide to help you.

Special Education services are run at the state level and filter down to the district level. They will fight you tooth and nail through the entire process. My suggestion is this:

Bring a laptop. At EVERY meeting with the school, take a roll call - the get the name and title, and function of everyone at the meeting. Get contact information. Note the date and the time. Record the information in the meeting like a court recorder would. I cannot tell you how many times, early on, where someone said something, and I was able to recall the information up and dispute in the meeting.

Do not give in to some of the strong arm tactics. When school district thought we were going to sue them, they ambushed us with with the district lawyer and intentionally set up the room where we were encircled by the administration. After everyone arrived, I moved all of the tables to the wall, except for one, and set the room up where it was more favorable for us, once they announced the lawyer, I started recording the video and audio and that never happened again.

Do not be afraid to discuss the possibility of having legal council there. We never brought a lawyer, but we discussed it several times. Eventually, we had zero shenanigans from the school. This is where meticulous documentation comes in. I scanned all the documents they provided to us, and all the information I recorded into Evernote and that gave me instant search.

Many of the teachers and paras are great, but they are overworked and do not have an appropriate support system. Over the past twelve years, this has improved, in particular with the student who received national attention for the scream room incident (he was in my Son's class at Benhaven).

Always get a second opinion on any diagnosis. Never let the school distribute medication. Save, retain and archive all documentation and assume the district is not working in favor of your child. Once the district sees that you are not a push over (for horror stories, talk to single moms with daughters on the spectrum in any Autism support group), the district will not pursue their angle, because you provide too much resistance. In most cases they expect you to be disengaged, once they realize you aren't, most barriers drop. Also, feel free to not except things that are proposed during the PPT meetings. There were plenty of times, we flat out said "no" and proposed an alternate - all of which were accepted.

Hope this helps and welcome to Connecticut.

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gyokuro OP t1_j4mj18u wrote

The appearance of corruption is just as pernicious as real corruption itself. Connecticut has so many houses of cards being propped up by corruption, no wonder legislators are freaking out about being held accountable on video. The state's cannabis social equity council has already banned public comment at their public meetings. Seems like this is the next logical step for them to silence any and all dissent.

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jules13131382 t1_j4mebl1 wrote

Reply to comment by PettyWitch in CT in a nutshell by Mortgena

Lol that could be true. I’m not very picky. I do know that the West Coast is super into really boutique hipster food and I think you probably see that more in New Haven or Greenwich, or some of the extremely wealthy areas of Connecticut, maybe not so much in Central Connecticut.

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DayShiftDave t1_j4m9h80 wrote

Reply to comment by Green_House_57 in CT in a nutshell by Mortgena

You're so right. On a recent trip to my local coffee shop, two 12oz cold brews and two almond croissants was $33 with tax, before tip. It's always good to remind myself why I suffer Dunks.

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mikeymo1741 t1_j4m6ib2 wrote

I moved to Florida, I tried to explain to people how many places in Connecticut you can stand in a Dunkin' donuts and see another Dunkin' donuts.

Same vibe down here but with 7-Elevens

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onihr1 t1_j4m1y39 wrote

silas dean highway i think has 3 d&d and 2 cvs all with in like 5 minutes of each other.

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ComradeJohnS t1_j4lzbou wrote

I had my coffee made badly one dozen too many times, so I started just buying the iced coffee and a good creamer from stop n shop, and always got the same taste in the morning for cheaper lol.

I don’t drink coffee anymore since the snickers creamer stopped being as available.

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Stretchy_Cat t1_j4lxhvk wrote

Reply to comment by PettyWitch in CT in a nutshell by Mortgena

If you're looking for soft, moist, doughy, fried glazed doughnuts then I'd recommend Brooklyn Baking in Waterbury. They don't do a ton of flavors, they're not trendy hipster doughnuts with a pile of candy or cereal or bacon or rainbow frosting (or all of the above) on top, but they're simple and delicious. I've never had a dry doughnut there.

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