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Hyfrith t1_j43ii2p wrote

Reply to comment by enigmamonkey in [image] you are tomorrow by yetTear272

Haha, I thought I had ADHD for months and months. Everything I read about it seemed to point to my exact symptoms, struggles and experiences. It was only when my chronic procrastination got me in trouble at work that I sought out a therapist. She didn't think I had ADHD after I told her everything, and instead helped me realise what I actually have is very acute, very suppressed anxiety. Which has ADHD-like symptoms with distraction (avoidance), procrastination, memory issues for example.

A YouTuber I admire called Better Ideas has a great mantra for procrastination. "Inaction is a slow death". Taking action we're afraid of is painful, but the pain of leaving it to grow and fester in our mind is worse over time. Better to choose the short term pain and just get ready for work, because the personal pain and guilt and stress of being late, or not going, or getting in trouble for it with your boss will feel worse in the long run.

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TripedalCyclops t1_j43ghl2 wrote

Reply to [Image] I’ve been there so I’m just sharing for whoever needs to see this today. by conversingwithoceans

"...so much goodness and light out there..."

out there is not where I need goodness and light in my life.

in here is where I need goodness and light in my life.

as I am finding, it takes inner goodness and light to balance the darker days, where ever they may come from.

Thanks OP, I needed this reminder and I hope your light stays strong

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the_other_irrevenant t1_j43fz2n wrote

Reply to comment by notfin in [image] you are tomorrow by yetTear272

Interesting interpretation.

If that were the case there's be no tomorrow to take the task from him in the first place, though.

That would be a neat alternative comic - the guy just keeps passing the task to tomorrow and one day there's just no-one to take it.

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loopywolf t1_j43f7bm wrote

Reply to [image] you are tomorrow by yetTear272

Anyone here actually talk to their past-future selves?

Example of a talk to tomorrow-me: Sink full of dishes. "I know I'm not gonna wanna do these tomorrow.. but I just can't tonight." Me in the morning, "Ya, I did say I'd do them in the morning. Sucks, but yeah, I was real tired."

or Me-In-Four-Years: "Are we sure? We can't be. This is the best decision I can make right now. Whatever it is, let's be ok with it." In four years: "I remember I tried my best back then. Ok, I'll live with it."

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melvah2 t1_j43di6t wrote

Reply to [image] by _Cautious_Memory

I expect people to be able to do their jobs competently. If I reduced my expectation of that I may be less disappointed, but I just wouldn't engage in health services so I don't think I'd be better off.

Expecting more from myself doesn't work when I'm exceedingly frustrated that I'm not immediately better because I'm too unwell to do the things to make me better.

I think this would work for people who shirked personal responsibility and blamed others a lot, but it's highly unhelpful and potentially damaging to those with limitations, trust issues, have gotten used to people letting them down or abandoning them and perfectionism.

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