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JaeminGlider t1_j442qo7 wrote

Reply to [image] by _Cautious_Memory

I'm constantly struggling to meet my own expectations and suffering burnout. This also got paired with toxic positivity, except, it's always my own responsibility to improve and do better. I spiraled into denial that other people are capable of making mistakes; if something went wrong, I ask "how do I improve the situation?" instead of recognizing "do I need to do something differently and is this actually my responsibility?"

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Life will get better if you balance your expectations of others and of yourself. Do not focus on putting more burden on yourself.

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Anrikay t1_j440l2m wrote

Reply to comment by HaysteRetreat in [image] by _Cautious_Memory

Expecting more from yourself can also mean working to be more kind to yourself, loving yourself more, and working on achieving better mental health. Or looking for greater self satisfaction rather than external validation.

That's something I struggle with as well, but I'm trying really hard to hold myself to a higher standard of self-empathy and self-respect.

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Gurzlak t1_j43wqvw wrote

Reply to [image] by _Cautious_Memory

The trick is understanding the difference in expectation and reliance.

Expect other people to do their job, but always rely on yourself to get yours done. It’s not your fault if someone else doesn’t do their job (unless you’re their manager whose sole purpose is to ensure your employees can and do perform their job….but that’s a different discussion).

Relying on other people to make your life better is not a good way to have a good life.

There’s significantly more nuance than what can fit here, but that’s the gist. Take care of yourself, don’t rely on and expect other people to do it for you.

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