I mean yeah? Living a life alone is hard and sad. It’s not such a radical concept. 15, 20 years ago it was normal to be in a relationship and if you weren’t you were an anomaly and and it was accepted it was a shitty situation to be in. This new attitude is overthinking things and is emotional gaslighting in my opinion. Get the relationship, if you’re still sad and depressed go see someone but don’t try and treat situational symptoms without trying to fix the situation. It’s madness.

But why? I want to remove them. When I was younger I accepted everyone and anyone. Now that I'm older, I only keep friends on social media that I actually talk too. So why keep them around?

you have no idea the detrimental effect having more expectations on yourself than others has on a person

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It sucks but I think you're better off deleting them. It's hard to move on the offensive in that regard, but the residual relief is worth it 100%

If I think someone's cool I'll sometimes not know what to reply that won't make me seem to stuck up, too insecire, that I want to be friends more than they do, that I am bored by them and that makes me come across as someone they wanna be friends with too.

So after type and erasing different messages over and over I'll give up for the day, get new messages and forget I never sent anything

If it's opposite sex then it could be jealous bf/gf who throws a fit when they see them messaging you, they have a big argument and promise not to talk to you anymore but they never tell you because they are ashamed of their bf/gf behavior l.

Self care is priority 100%

This hit. Definitely got to take care of yourself first and let everything else fall in place.

Do not remove them, keep them but do not like or watch any of their posts or stories, always remember that when people distance themselves from you, it is not your fault, it is their insecurities and their problems, just move on, sometimes people come to our lives for us to help them with something and once our job is done they just move away, be happy they left because their place in your life was only temporary, only the real ones stay and the fake ones tend to leave.

Expectations will only kill your happiness!!!

This is the way.

I couldn't agree more. Holding on to someone who has moved on only prolongs our own pain and prevents us from finding true happiness. It takes strength and self respect to let go and move forward.

The thing that gets me is this. I had a friend from work who just stopped talking to me. Wont return any texts, but yet he keeps me as friends on Facebook. Why? If you don't want to talk to me, then just delete me, and move on. Why ignore someone but then keep them as a friend on social media?

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I could have used this like a year ago

Don't let people linger in your life if you no longer want them to be a part of it.

Part of expecting more can be cutting yourself some slack. Also, baby steps, it doesn’t matter what you’re doing, get comfortable with it.

Same! While also remembering that i can’t focus too much on me, and not enough about the people around me. I’d worked myself into a bad spiral of not giving myself any credit or slack, and it led to some real rough times

Is it me or is that apostrophe backwards

Sleep with r 2000s rnb playing in ur room. Always works for me

Great general advice. I'll also check out that YT channel, sounds really interesting. The "Inaction is a slow death" video was fucking awesome. Thanks for that feedback! 😊

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It's better to do it today, tomorrow may never come 😆

There are so many things that become future me’s problem.