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Clownhooker t1_j46jiy6 wrote

Reply to comment by LiveMammoth7055 in Don't linger in someones life if they no longer want you to be part of it. Have some dignity [Discussion] by TreeB7

It was pretty shocking to be honest. Her mother is somewhat of an animal hoarder, and my friend volunteers at pet shelters all the time. She can be a little high-and -mighty when it comes to animal care. I UNDERSTAND where the comments were coming from but it still doesn’t make it right. It was as if a “mommy expert” came and told me that I wasn’t worthy of having this child. (Painful) So even if she were to come back I wouldn’t be willing to continue the friendship.

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AcidTWister t1_j46hbwo wrote

Reply to [image] by _Cautious_Memory

Yeah I don't know about this.

I have incredibly low expectations from others because of how I've been treated in the past, and I expect perfection from myself.

All that's gotten me is a therapist who wants to get me evaluated so I can get on meds.

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uncoolcat t1_j46fs0j wrote

Reply to Don't linger in someones life if they no longer want you to be part of it. Have some dignity [Discussion] by TreeB7

This is solid advice if you know for certain that the person doesn't want you in their life any longer.

Problem is, sometimes it's rather difficult to determine whether or not that's legitimately the case; maybe they are depressed or have other mental health issues going on, maybe they've got a jealous partner, maybe they just got really busy with other stuff, etc. I've got friends where we might not communicate for a year or more at a time, and there have been other times where I legitimately thought someone wanted me out of their life only to find out later that was certainly not the case and was due to circumstances beyond their control.

All I'm saying is just be cautious when using this approach. People have deleted me out of their life because they assumed that I was not interested in being friends, just because I hadn't reached out to them specifically in X number of days.

However, if someone clearly communicates to you that they no longer want you in their life, by all means respect their choice and cut ties. It can be difficult and upsetting especially if you care about the person, but unfortunately it can happen and it's best to respect their wishes.

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Theamazing-rando t1_j46edp8 wrote

Reply to [Image] "I have not failed 700 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 700 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work." ~ Thomas A. Edison by Butterflies_Books

This is a problematic quote from Edison for many reasons; the most pertinent would be his foray into X-rays. The man had no idea what he was doing, thought it sounded interesting to play with, and caused his assistant to die a horribly painful death through radiation exposure!

Before all the "Edison stole this or that patent", which may hold some truth, the dude not only had no formal education at all, but he still managed to patent over 1000 inventions! He was a legit inventor!

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PhantomTroupe-2 t1_j46ebiw wrote

Reply to adults who look back at pictures of their younger selves and realize they had no reason to be so insecure back then, should bear in mind that they will likely be thinking the same thing in a couple decades when looking back on their current selves [discussion] by ideas_now

I used to hate myself as a teenager, but nowadays I’ll be look at old pictures of myself and be like

“damn….I coulda had it all of I had confidence” lol

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