Recent comments in /f/GetMotivated

13900_lP_wasted t1_j4tggzu wrote

Reply to [image] Tuesday reminder. by verbselflove

I was just making dinner, dim lights, listening to my favorite tunes...

All of the sudden I stopped, looked around and thought to myself: All of this, inside this house, all I've helped gather. Slowly looked around, aknowledging everything my mom and I own. I tapped my back and got watery eyes. Im fucking proud of myself.

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Context: My mom doesn't have a retirement plan, she has always been a housewive. My dad and her split appart 7 years ago.

5 years ago, my dad stopped giving her money. I had to step in and take care of her and the house.

We live in an experive area, we've both managed to work to sustain the house and get the stuff we need. We don't have a car, so things can always be better, but I'm grateful for pushing through the shit we've lived.

A couple of days ago, my dad and mom came to an agreement, she got het share of the heritage and we can finaly breath in peace knowing we don't have to worry about montly expenses as much.

Cheers to 2023, to recovering my life back, to growth and fuck all the dickhead dads that let their family suffer through this shit.

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Jammintoad t1_j4t8avh wrote

Reply to [Meta] For a subreddit about “getting motivated,” why are the comments overwhelmingly negative? by itsovermike

Because of self awareness I would say. People who are trying to get motivated realize that 90% of the ways most people think about motivation is actually unhelpful.

Sharing an image of a super rich person is "fun" because you get to imagine you're super rich. If you take it a step further and actually think about it you realize a particular set of circumstances that you don't have allowed them to be as rich as they are. But people will still share the pictures because they like to feel good about themselves thinking "that could be me" sure it's a positive emotion but it's really not that motivating.

Real motivation comes from discipline, faith in oneself, and understanding that while you may not end up where you intend, you'll end up somewhere better by getting up and trying consistently than just letting things sit.

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Desperate_Educator60 t1_j4t2jom wrote

Reply to [image] Tuesday reminder. by verbselflove

Birthday just in the now by the way I’m need all this good stuff before I had an account with Reddit I would just look at nasty stuff you know and it was depressing it got so bad that I got caught up in some stuff man but now I’m just in this motivational post that’s all I watch oh look at and thanks for this app you know for this is nice post mate I really need it what’s the common playing of killing myself you know

Fortunately we’re in a world where nobody cares no more just about themselves I just gotta remember where I came from when I get out of this and I’ll go back to this stage in my life ever again so I haven’t ever been this bad ever you know I’m barely hanging onto a thread you know I love let downs a lot of expectations I guess you would say out of people when I know damn well that you’re not gonna help me when you’re down nobody helps you when you’re down that’s the sad thing is the love ones don’t help you you have to help yourself

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mangomochamuffin t1_j4sxenk wrote

Reply to [Meta] For a subreddit about “getting motivated,” why are the comments overwhelmingly negative? by itsovermike

Things like 'dont stand still, always be productive, you can rest when you are dead' are more hurtful than motivating. Not everyone is in perfect health. Some people here need a simple 'be proud that you got out of bed today' and 'a year has passed without you practising a good habit' is demoralising for them.

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Sleepycatz t1_j4sx1p1 wrote

Reply to [Meta] For a subreddit about “getting motivated,” why are the comments overwhelmingly negative? by itsovermike

Keep in mind this is just my own personal experience from seeing the occasional r/GetMotivated post on the front page, as well as my own experiences with depression, but a lot of posts I see are based on success stories. Which CAN be motivating, but to others can be more of an obstacle, like "Okay they did it but it's unrealistic and would never work for me"

I think the best example I can give is the scene from the beginning of Shrek, where he reads the happy ending to the fairy tale, and immediately follows it up with "Like that's ever gonna happen"

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