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W-h3x t1_j4xtvjl wrote

I definitely did it scared.

Was in a toxic living situation with a job that worked me to death... Wanted out. Packed all my shit up in Kansas City and took a job in Michigan I was barely qualified for. Loaded all my shit into a U-Haul & crammed my family into the front at 5am, and headed to where I am now.

Couldn't be happier. Great friends, happy family, great job, little to no stress... Honestly best thing I've ever done.

I was terrified to fail before I got here & everything would crumble. It didn't. I've got Lake Michigan right down the street & life is good.

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bonerJR t1_j4xnlm6 wrote

Yo just last night I finished the wiring harness on my project car. It was petrifying in that I was scared my hours of work would burn or break. Stuff broke, but not the bad stuff!

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Nightblade20 t1_j4xly1z wrote

Doing it scared is pretty crappy advice in most cases.

If you try to do a backflip scared, you will mentally sike yourself out, fault to commit, and land on your fucking head. Game over, all because in the moment you forgot how to make the rotation happen, or how to jump properly. You were thinking more about how afraid you are.

If you try to do a presentation scared, you'll have your audience thinking harder about the words you fumbled and stuttered than the ideas you're communicating. People don't really piss themselves, but you'll likely have sweat marks on your back and your pits, some dripping down your face, some shakiness that indicates low confidence and doesn't inspire confidence from others, et cetera.

If you're firing a gun scared, you may just drop it, or forget your trigger discipline. Accidentally turn it towards a friendly target while you're gushing to them about how much that recoil startled you, or just point it at your foot while you squint to see if your shot landed.

Driving on the highway for the first time? If you're scared, you might be looking at the mirrors more than the road, or the road more than the mirrors. You might drift from your lane or forget to maintain speed.

Asking out the chick you like? Newsflash bro, you might be afraid because you know you smell like shit, your teeth are unbrushed, or you're wearing a stupid "eat sleep game repeat" t-shirt, or just because you're simply batting out of your league, or you're shooting for someone with whom you have no rapport, no prior exchanges, haven't even traded introductions yet. Your brain will know if something's wrong and tell you accordingly.

Fear is an instinctual response to unknown prospects. Ignoring your fear is done by silencing the logical part of your brain, which yeah might let you do it, but also will allow you to do it incorrectly and distracted, so in certain instances powering through can just cause harm. Sometimes, doing it anyways is just what you need to do, but if it's something you only want to do then it might be better to step back and think about it before you're in action and on the spot. That's why I would revise this advice to "prepare, and do it ready."

Listen in on your brain if you're afraid. Brains should be rational by design, so there will always be a real reason it thinks it's not so good of an idea. Don't override it, pick it apart, and prepare yourself in advance to remove that confounding variable from the equation.

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