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fatkhuloff t1_j4yrleq wrote

Reply to [IMAGE] WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS\STORIES ON THIS QUOTE ???? by No_Solution_9545

This scenario is quite common for all successful movie plots. It goes:

  1. Call to adventure
  2. Threshold (sometimes also the resistance// path to avoid
  3. Transformation through challenges and temptations
  4. Revelation. Through literal of figurative death and rebirth afterward
  5. Atonement
  6. Return accompanied with various gifts

Bankroll. The end.

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Nightblade20 t1_j4y2dvg wrote

Reply to comment by alfredthedinosaur in [Image] Do it scared by kriskoeh

You decisively missed the point. Yeah indeed for sure fear can be overcome by simply doing it successfully for the first time, but in order to actually be successful you need to prepare, always without exception. I'm sure you had prepared yourself for all of that, motorcycle classes before you got your bike, skydiving lessons before you were in the plane with a reputable pilot and instructor, leaving the Minecraft t-shirt in the wardrobe before offering a date. Good for you, but you didn't succeed just because you decided to. You did because you were prepared, and you were prepared because you were afraid from the beginning. If you followed the advice in the image to the letter, you'd have thrown yourself out of the plane afraid, but confident in your ability to figure out the parachute. Fear is necessary to hold us all back from recklessness.

I do think you're right. Some people certainly are too scared. The advice to simply do things regardless of being scared just isn't helpful or motivating to those people though. It's a real succinct-looking message, but it doesn't help them actually deal with the fear. Fear can be paralyzing and disabling when you least want it to be, just an evolutionary flaw. Overcoming it takes a lot of reasoning with that fight-or-flight part of the brain to flip that switch all the way towards fight. And I'm not talking "mad-scramble-thrash-and-flail-for-your-life" fight, I'm talking "kick-ass-take-names-and-make-a-name-for-myself" fight. Nobody that holds your attention does so with fear in their eyes. He or she does it with a plan behind them, and with knowledge and skills further back in their head. Success isn't just manifested and neither is confidence, both are borne from preparation.

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alfredthedinosaur t1_j4xvvcx wrote

Reply to comment by Nightblade20 in [Image] Do it scared by kriskoeh

Doing it scared is how I learned how to skydive. And that unlocked a whole world of possibilities and new experiences for me, to the point that I feel it changed my whole life trajectory and outlook.

All of your examples (except shooting a gun, which i agree is a different scenario for this) all are responses that fear inhibit you from experiencing and learning. Learning new things is scary. For example, I was scared shitless first time I drove on the freeway. Now, I'm beyond proficient at it and ride a motorcycle. I was scared shitless each time I asked my girlfriends out for the first times, they said yes and i got to experience relationships with them. Sometimes you have to overcome the fear by doing it, or life will just pass you by.

To each their own, I guess. Some people are too scared.

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