Hope it resonated with you! 😁

Telegraphing intentions to those around you is considerate, because it may interfere with others and then you have the chance to work on a compromise.

Also telling your friends you'll do something can keep you honest as now you've let it out of your head there's additional pressure to follow through. Even better, get a friend involved and become partners in whatever you're trying to achieve so you both benefit from keeping the other person on track.

I don’t wanna stand on the shoulder of a giant. I’ve seen that episode of One Punch Man

Thank you for this brother

Love this! Thank you!

I've actually found that discussing plans of things I want to do with friends and family can be a big support. They often come with helpful tips or good insights to look into that I hadn't considered yet.

You shouldn't shut yourself off from those around you just so you can impress them.

It’s a societal problem. I’m Just calling it out

Why would someone write about this when they could simply let their actions show us?

Sounds like a you problem but good luck

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I followed this advice with my crush and now I'm in jail. :(

Calling people haters and losers

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I'm not lost, I've merely entered a realm without a grid reference.

Love this and thank you for descriptions. I would never have thought I would be getting a much needed lesson on the internal shifting of my inner-world here on Reddit. :D

Awesome! Thanks for the reply. I didn’t see it until now! I feel like being the middle ground, at least for myself, is a better place to hang out. So I look forward to getting back into that down the road once I go through whatever internal transformation taking place right now! This past year or so, I’ve worried about myself as if I’ve completely lost my mind and gone madder than the Mad Hatter in Alice and Wonderland! Haha, lol. Maybe not that mad! But, it’s because I am now needing internal validation, as another commenter pointed out the difference between external and internal. I need to feel good about myself! Not just based on how I feel because you think I’m awesome. I want to feel awesome because I am awesome! Haha. Hopefully that makes sense. This is a great conversation.

It's sometimes people who are letting you know what's up. They might not be putting you down but are advising you otherwise. I've given advice and facts to people who refuse them and brush me off as a hater. Perspective can be a real bitch at times, so don't hate, but don,t think people hate you either, it closes you mind to what might really be there.

Interestingly enough, I remember reading a study awhile back that some people (with ADHD, I think?) are less likely to be motivated to do a thing if they talk about it a lot.

IIRC, the conclusion was that some peoples' brains can decide that doing a thing and talking about doing a thing are 'close enough'.

I always heard about the power of saying “no”, but it’s not until recently that I realize the importance of knowing when enough is enough and putting your life in your hands

If you want to tell me all about something you're planning, go ahead. If you're excited, you're more likely to follow through. Feel free to express yourself, your dreams, your ambitions, or anything you want to do to those in your life. Oftentimes you'll end up with encouragement and help!

I'm all for folks being excited and sharing that excitement. Good for you all that do that!

Talk as much as you want to, people!

Wow that’s a such a great mindset! And really well said—captures the theme of what I was trying to say

I’m glad you can find joy between the cracks

Thanks for sharing 😁

This post enlightens me. Expectations hurt and the unsatisfactory result that comes with it too. Then, I looked into my purpose for doing the work that I chose. For example, the job I'm doing is not high paying, doesn't give me health insurance, and puts wear and tear on my car. However, I focus on the act that it keeps me busy, allows me to see new areas in my city, be independent, listen to music/NPR radio, and driving can be nice sometimes. A little bonus is that I get to make people happy (bringing them a service).

I recently heard a little talk by Sam Harris- Begin Again.

If you messed up today- begin again, if you failed at something, begin again, if our marriage is working, begin again, simply begin again! So powerful few words.

Love it!