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ssatyd t1_j59m5n0 wrote

And actions don't speak as loud as the talkers, by far. The only way to counter that is do the necessary actions and talk about the results, a lot. Of course, those who only talk save the time they should have spent acting (which should be the majority), so it is an uphill battle. But slowly, people will notice. As Henry Ford said: "You can't build a reputation on what you are going to do".

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PunktualPenguin t1_j59lpe4 wrote

There is actually a bit of reasoning behind this too.

TLDR: stop talking about it and do it, it’s messing up how your brain gages achievement.

People quit working when they receive a sense of accomplishment .

The shallow reward that they get from announcing their intentions is often enough of an ego boost to fulfill their sense of accomplishment,

They don’t actually put in all of the hard work to do the thing, because they have already gotten their pat on the back.

If you are one of those people that has difficulty finishing things, but loves talking about what you’re going to do, you might want to start using delayed gratification as a carrot.

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oddntt t1_j59kel7 wrote

I think this advice is more for those who get caught up in the weeds. I have an insanely hard time talking about my accolades, so in order to ever apply for something new I have to just do it without getting stuck on piling all my awards or making sure my CV represents every little thing I've done. I use to do that and I was societally paralyzed for almost a decade.

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Otrada t1_j59e9ss wrote

Yeah, it's important to not just flap out any plan your brain cooks up in the moment. I usually only share plans after I've had a little time to think it through. If nothing else it's just because if you've got nothing to say about it yet then that just makes for an embarrassing conversation.

And ofc there's a big difference between sharing an interest you have and boasting about what great things you will allegedly be doing.

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JohnArce t1_j59cexd wrote

As someone who rather not boasts, I was advised to share my plans with friends, to get motivated by the encouragement. As well as the accountability.
On the other hand, it is easy to fall into a pattern of just telling people about awesome plans, and collect on that initial praise without having to follow through.

Sometimes I want the motivational energy, sometimes I don't want the pressure.

As with many things in life, it's not about blindly following the one line on the motivional poster, all the time, everytime, and considering the opposite 'the wrong thing'.

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