Finland has essentially zero homelessness, yet they have drugs and mental illnesses. The U.S. has nearly 10x the rate of homelessness as Canada, yet they both have drugs and mental illnesses. The differentiators are availability of affordable housing and supports to make that housing work for those with highest needs.

Stand up for yourself.

Think about what an adult would do. If a friend of mine started verbally abusing me, I'd look at him as if they've lost their minds. They don't get to make fun of me. Nobody does.

"Stop being an asshole" is a very effective sentence. So is asking "what's your problem?". Speak it clearly and calmly. If it doesnt work the first time, repeat it, or just roll your eyes and ignore them.

If it continues, find new friends

How tall are you?

Refinement: Hell is other wrong people.

It's not all other people.

I have some solid, dependable friends and they're the exact opposite of 'hell'.

This was the one for me. I was doing EVERYTHING they said to do. Still had constant dandruff. Apparently, some people get like a fungus that makes them have excessive scalp skin cells, and this is the only type of shampoo that fixes it. Head and Shoulders, tea tree stuff, NONE of it helped. NONE.

I used this shampoo one time and it was like freaking black magic. Zero dandruff. All gone. Now I use it once maybe every two weeks. Zero dandruff. Freaking magic.

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Need more details OP.

This could be anything from a throwaway expression based on how you feel, to an actual physical abuse situation.

C'mon. Spill. Share examples, and whether or if you've done ANYTHING AT ALL to try and rectify it.

Make new friends but also, take a step back and ask yourself, is there anything in yourself that made you vulnerable to them? if it's something you can change, work on that. You don't want the same pattern in new friendships.

It's both/(drugs more than criminality), at least initially

It's ONE hour of lost sleep. One night.

Speak up. The solution is likely more simple than you realize.

Kick 'em in the nutsack or smack' em in the pussy. I don't discriminate.

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Highly suggest reading the book Boundaries by Drs. Cloud and Townsend. Or any other book on the subject. If you don’t like reading, watch some videos from experts. If people are treating like a punching bag and you’re calling them friends, sounds like you have a need for some strong boundaries.

Not the same story at all. But my mother has NPD and I had zero understanding of boundaries or self worth until I was in my mid-20s. Learning about boundaries was life changing for me. I cannot recommend them enough.

This might be a wive's tale but they say aloe vera helps a lot.

I have a mild dandruff condition and I use Head and Sh (menthol scent or something) shampoo regularly, and it helps a lot.

Nizoral shampoo, or anything with the active ingredient ketoconazole

I'll try that tip, thanks!!

Can you tell me a bit more about this? When I roll on my side, I feel comfortable, until I roll past the side point and the cpap gets crushed between my face and the pillow, lol

As somebody recently coming to terms with a history of not treating people great, it is 100% best for you to create distance. If you've been hurt deeply for a while, then you need to take care of yourself first in this moment.

But one thing I will say different from some others in this thread is this: don't just ghost them. You don't necessarily owe them the courtesy of explaining to them why their shit stinks, especially if this has been happening consistently for years, but it is important for yourself to practice openly communicating how you're really feeling here. You certainly don't need to try to fix things. Make it clear to them and yourself why you need to create space. You don't owe them a letter, or even a conversation. But a simple message succicntly and firmly explaining your reason for backing off (being treated poorly) can go a long way. That way, in the future if you run into similar problems with new friends, you'll be able to articulate your needs in the relationship sooner and address the problems from the root.

The longer we let things fester without really talking them through to an end, whether that be reconciliation, relegation of your relationship to just being acquaintances, or the termination of a friendship, the more complicated and deep rooted some negative feelings like resentment and betrayal can really become. It can be hard to dig yourself out of that hole

Yes, we switched to a really firm mattress last year, and I exercise regularly, especially light yoga and stretching my therapist taught me, which really helps ease the pain.

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Thanks!

Just brush it off with the back of your hand.

My stylist just did a tea tree oil and peppermint oil scalp treatment. Completely removed the flakes. She said you can do it at home, but I don’t know the ratios of the oils.

Or buy commercial-grade Japanese products. Regular size, but also efficient and effective. For instance, I just got rid of my kettle for a Zojirushi water-boiler. Hot water on demand, five minutes faster, with a similar countertop profile as a kettle.

It's okay to breakup with friends, people move on and live their lives.

Some hair quizzes may help, it really depends on hair type and dandruff type.

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