Recent comments in /f/LifeProTips

multiplemom t1_j2chswl wrote

Ive actually been in this situation three times. Slow learner, I suppose.

In middle school, I just got up with my lunch tray and switched tables. Never spoke to them again as a “friend.” Never responded when any of them asked me why.

Second time, in my late teens, I just moved. Last minute, announced I was moving cross country, and left. It was sort of oddly interesting to watch them scramble in real time to rearrange the ranks and figure out who would be the new butt of the joke. And since none of them would take on that role for an extended period of time, there was a lot of in-fighting, and the group kind of split, and although they’re still friendly, it’s not like it used to be.

As an adult, I took it for a long time, and then I had my kids, and something changed. I finally bit back. It did not go over well. She completely blew her top. Went off the rails. We have not spoken since, and I don’t care. I have made other friends since, and although I was lonely for a period of time, I will never allow anyone to treat me in that manner again.

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use_the_schwartz t1_j2cg71o wrote

My work will periodically give us gift certificates to Uber Eats/DoorDash/GrubHub, and every single time I tell my wife “no I’ll make the order on the app and go pick it up myself,” and people like you are exactly the reason why.

And yes, I do leave them at least 20% tip because I’ve worked in food service, but the way you handle little annoyances makes me worry for you when you have big time problems down the road in life. Sort yourself out and grow up.

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PresentAir1133 t1_j2cfafv wrote

I'm also disabled and knock everything over or drop things. In a 4 story home, it gets old cleaning constantly. I'll join you on the limb and guess that the oven is older than you are. So, after setting the microwave on fire, then set the oven on fire with some good, old ,home cookin...I gave up.

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Sharpshooter188 t1_j2cf3xq wrote

You need to strengthen yourself in a lot of ways. Respect is earned. Workout, learn to socialize more outside of them, study. Do not be afraid to bite back. If it breaks the friendship than so be it. You have to imrpove yourself and then a new group will come to you over time. Just be sure to respect your new group as you understand what its like to be on the bad end.

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PresentAir1133 t1_j2ceqrr wrote

I wasn't "generalizing everything," but I've been all over the world, and it's rare that a tip is considered a rude gesture. In some countries, they dread seeing American guests bc we're considered loud, demanding, complainers, and terrible tippers.

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PresentAir1133 t1_j2ce5lh wrote

Yup. It sure ain't the late '60s anymore. And it gets worse as you get older. I'm just outside City proper and anything goes, no rules, no etiquette, no more hanging out with neighbors. Even the cops don't gas. (PS Never buy a condo. there are no laws that protect owners).

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Brewtusmo t1_j2ce1t4 wrote

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