Can she come over to my house to help?!

That works. When the person who made the mistake is more senior I've also used "I found this and I don't understand, could you explain?" As in, you're assuming it's correct and it's you who doesn't get it, which means you're not telling them it's wrong, you're leaving them to realise that that for themselves, and they can then save face by saying something vague like "I'll look into it" and then quietly fix it.

This is deflection. It makes the person really unlikable.

Someone, I won't say who, may be unfamiliar with sleeping bags and "stuff sacks".

This is huge. You can always tell who’s gaslighting you by how they react to a lie.

If they come clean they lied, they are seen as more trust-worthy and likeable.

If they continue to find every excuse to make their lie believable, and can never admit fault… it’s a huge red flag.

Stand up to your mommy and you'll never need to fold anything in your life ever again.

I mean, the post says it'll show you who your enemies are, and that's absolutely correct. It just doesn't mention that if your manager is one of those enemies, then following this advice will hand them all they need to throw you under the bus.

To be fair it's very useful to know if your manager is that sort, and if they are then you should probably leave if at all able, but it's better to find out quietly and then jump rather than being pushed.

INFO please: are you talking about the folds in your sheets & pillowcases or the foldy thingies in the grey matter of your brain?

Or both?

This is true. Whenever I play pickleball, the courts are all full, and like 1 or 2 of the tennis courts out of 8 are being used.

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Pfft. I bet this guy doesn’t even iron his socks

Just make sure you dont do too good a job or you'll be stuck in your role until they get promoted or you threaten to leave

my kid’s preschool teacher lost her toddler last year, i has absolutely no idea what to say aside from “i’m so sorry.” advice i received after the fact was to ask what their baby’s name is, not what it was, then repeat the baby’s name. it’s a gentle reminder that their baby existed, and they’re remembered by those who never got to meet them.

not all who die, die old.

Works for me, assuming you mean your right side as you stand at the foot of the bed, facing it. Of course, top left would also work.

Even despite all of that, and every bit of what you say is true. It's always key to own your mistakes. I cop up to every single one of mine. I own it, because I made it. But I'm going to come with a solution to make it right, and we're going to discuss what can be done better to avoid it again. And sometimes it can even be as simple as "OK, holy shit I was actually a dumbass I don't know how you fuck that up, but I just straight up needed to give it more attention." That's OK too, unless it was something serious and you were being negligent. But if I own all my mistakes, then when it genuinely is not my fault something goes tits up they are going to believe me because I have shown them I own the fuck-ups I am responsible for.

If you can't have this manner of course regarding your mistakes at your job, then it isn't a place worth going in to. You're more than likely working a toxic hell hole that haze absolutely zero respect for you. Consequences to a mistake is fine if I fucked it up. That's part of owning your mistakes, too. But I find they're received a hell of a lot better when you have solutions prepared in how to handle it. I'll take my lumps when they're due, but I expect a civil and professional conversation about what happened, why it happened, what we do to make it right, and whether or not we need to make adjustments in order to prevent it again next time. If I can't expect that from you, I don't want to work for you anyways.

Fully document the conditions when you move in.

Don't have the bills sent to your parents, pay them yourself. (Even if they are giving you the money.) This will help establish good habits, and give you a track record for paying bills. (Make sure to pay on time, you want the record to be a good one.)

Definitely a good tip! That said, That sounds like your sink was already older or in rough condition. I poured bacon grease down my sink for a few months before realizing that it’s bad and never ran into issues.

Sounds like you found your answer

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What’s with this “no one cares” nonsense?

Should anybody care is debatable, but I care God Dammit! And according to my mom I am a somebody!

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Hope you aren't doing this with the belief that you will get more financial aid and not your parents dependent. Gonna come back on you all

>People will trust you and I haven't found too many people that can't understand an honest mistake.

Just be aware, if someone says "hey you did something wrong that upset me". Sit back and listen, don't get defensive about what you're going to hear. If you acknowledge your actions lead to what happened, whether it was small or a large part, have the self-awareness of that things you do may upset other people. If you decide to double down and not admit fault because you feel your perfect in every category, don't be surprised when coworkers alienate you or ask to not talk to them about anything.

Read your lease and rental laws. Knowing your rights and responsibilities will prevent so much headache.

OP i hate to break it to you, but you are a creep