My wife agrees!! The social aspect brought her a lot of friendship and the games difficulty brought her some purpose. Both were low after she quit working.

However, she is very fit (think triathlons) and tennis in no way taxes her cardio. “It doesn’t count” she says as she is on elliptical or peloton before a match. But it is also not a zero, so that’s maybe a big gain for most folks.

It is also not cheap the way she plays. Club vs municipal court, many outfits, shoes that wear out, and mostly the shoulder surgery, worn from overhead serving motion.

All that said, she loves it and it’s been great for the past 8 years of her “retirement” (she’s 47).

The key is finding something to stay active. Hiking, cycling, adult rec soccer are my choices. Each has its own advantages and risks. They all serve as an influence to eat and sleep well so you can perform the next day.

Yes, when we had a rocky time in our marriage our therapist made us play a game where we had to write down what it was like when we first met (couldn’t go back physically bc it was very far), where we were, what attracted us to them etc. It really did help us reconnect and focus on what we originally liked about each other. She said it helps a lot to clear the mind of all the petty things that built up in a marriage over time and reset the brain to remember why/what you liked about this person in the first place.

Actually yes, yes I do go ask them to correct it. Otherwise I would be stealing.

That is pretty much word for word what I thought.

I won't even attempt this at my own house. She will sense it somehow next time she visits.

I don't fold any of my clothes anymore. Best decision I took this year.

I hope you didn't give them the number of another car that looks the same as yours.

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I homeschool my kids and this is exactly what I tell them. Having trouble, explain it out loud to me and let's see if we can figure it out. Usually just by them slowing down and talking through it they're able to figure it out on their own. Verbal processing is so helpful for some people.

Can you clarify how to do that? (On Android)

A partner who desires spending some time together is just normal and clearly not what this is about, a partner who pushes someone to open eyes to toxic influences can be great, but this post is about partner induced isolation - This is a scarily common phenomenon that people need to keep their eyes open to.

Suggesting communication if you feel like you are being isolated misses the point that people who isolate partners will gaslight if put on the spot about it before continuing to further isolate. Furthermore, golden rule of couples counselling is do not participate in it if in an abusive or coercive relationship. A manipulative partner will agree to couples therapy and run rings round their victim.

Really this comment appears well intentioned but is much more misguided than it might appear to some folks. If a new partner is isolating anyone from friends and family then leave whilst you still have friends and family to support you because once you’re estranged leaving is 10000000 x more difficult and you don’t know what comes next.

Thanks for reminding me of my 14kg dumbbell which I bought 6 years ago. Pro tip: I still have spaghetti arms.

That's like saying that it's okay to not scan some of your items at a self checkout because it is the company's fault for getting rid of cashiers. It is still very much theft.

As is your ability to add nothing of value to a conversation

I'm absolutely sure everyone around you enjoys the insufferable asinine corrections but I'd rather not engage with the "uM aCtUaLly" dude, thanks tho.

Cleaning my vent literally halved the time it took my dryer to work on a load of clothes

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Seriously. When you turn fitted sheets upside down, the elastic corners still form a loose, manageable corner, which means it is a rectangle like any other sheet. Use those as your folding corners and you are 95% of the way there. The other five percent is how much effort you want to put into folding them perfectly flat.

reads comments who knew folding sheets was so controversial lol

Lpt: look up a video on how to fold fitted sheets. It’s not that difficult. Put all corners inside each other and lay flat. Then fold like normal. Obviously a visual medium would explain this better.

I’ve found the easiest two way’s, depending on if you’re alone or have help: to turn the sheet so the elastic is on top holding the outside of the seam, making sure the elastic is loose above the sheet, almost as if you’re ignoring that part, then folding it regularly OR if you turn one corner in and one out so they lay inside of each other and then it creates a nice line along the top and bottom edges, you and someone else would fold opposite sides in (you fold your right hand in, they fold their left hand in) then fold like normal sheet.

I hope that makes sense. Once I learned the first way, I’ve never had an issue with fitted sheets

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This also holds for men, my dad is being isolated from friends/family by his new partner and it’s proving really difficult to get him to see what’s going on. It’s a script common relationship tactic, and it doesn’t have a gender.

Owning dumbbells certainly don’t keep you in habit. It’s just as easy to tuck them away somewhere and forget about them as it is to not go to the gym.

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