You can‘t leave us hanging like OP. Does he do naughty things to food??

This is crazy. Basically this person is a stranger to you and you should not have to open up your place to him considering the risks you have already mentioned.

Your family members who want you to have him stay at your place can all chip in and pay for a hotel room for this person they care for so much. Not your problem.

As I have gotten older I have learned that saying "NO" is good for my mental health and is often the wise choice.

Wtf. Sounds like he was the problem in his last relationship

Don’t discount the Steelcase Gesture. That thing got rid of my backpain.

I love this. Care is shown and received in so many different ways. The more you recognize even the smaller gestures, the brighter the world seems.

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It sounds like you aren’t comfortable having them as a guest so maybe you shouldn’t have them stay with you.

like what habits?

The issue I have with gaming chairs I have seen is they are all made of leather which sucks in the summer or if you live in a tropical area.

The chair I have has a mesh on it, and that has worked out for me.

If it really bothers you, find him a handy decent hostel (own private room) or airbnb or motel (or whatever the most decent option you can afford)

Say you have covid/gastro/some other unpleasant contagious illness. Or some other viable reason.

It might cost you money but save you peace of mind and he’ll feel like he’s being specially treated.

Somewhere that’s got decent reviews, is safe and clean and in a safe suburb.

Apologise for the change of plans but you wouldn’t want him to miss his flight or travels due to xyz.

If you're that concerned about him being in your place, then politely say no. Either your super paranoid, or your not comfortable with this situation. Either way it's your place and you call the shots

Dude, chillax. He's not going to jizz on your food.

Add very light dusting of powder or baking soda or flour on things he could touch that you want to know. If he touches it you’ll be able to tell. Make it super light dusting so it’s not obvious at quick glance.

Put up paper sign With ton of tape blocking use of it marked private so it can’t be opened. Any guest should be fine with not touching anything private.

Put something super small in very distinct way you’d remember so if it’s touched you’d know.

So if you put baking soda all over floor and sign it with your finger so he can’t replace it in room he’s not supposed to be in he can’t ever complain if he sees that as he’s not supposed to be there!

I have opened my home to so many people over the years. Stop being paranoid. It's just for a few hours

Why don't you tell your brother to put a lock then, and they should understand your concern then, even more because they told you, something don't add up

I let a coworker stay at my house and house sit for me. He was leaving a bad relationship that was abusive. He ended up costing me $1500 in damages and water for staying 2 weeks. He broke my washer hoses and leaked water all over the basement. He didn't notice the hoses were no longer attached. He used my garage and rammed his car into the items stored in the garage. He forced his car to fit damaging the wicker furniture set that he ran into. He ran over boxes of tile in the garage. He moved a cast iron sink that was stored in the garage and dropped it and cracked it. He moved a antique kitchen table and broke the legs. I have to rent a dumpster to throw out all the broken items. He broke every item in the garage. If your gut is telling you don't do this, please dont. I regret it.

I think if you just ask nicely they would respect your wishes.. it sounds like your other family members trust them enough to ask you to help.. do you not trust their judgement?

What a shitty person, thank god my family is nice

So, the people who know this person think he’s that sketchy, but still want you to open your home to them without you even being there to facilitate? I would honestly tell them to gently screw off. If they’re so concerned they can pay for his hotel.

Herman Miller Aeron & Embody gets a good rep. As does the Steelcase Leap v2.

The only way to ensure that he doesn't touch any of your stuff is to lock it up or remove it from your home. Can you box it up and store it somewhere overnight, such as your car, garage, your job, or a friend's apartment? If you want to tape up your fridge, don't be subtle. Seal it in such a way that it would be obvious if it was messed with, like tamper proof tape. Tape it up, take a photo with your phone, and take the remainder of the roll of tamper proof tape with you when you go.

I kind of want to know how he is twisted in an unhygienic way, and a kinda really DON'T want to know! Good luck!

Their chairs are great, but if you want an all-day-chair from HM you're going to need to sell a couple of family members to afford it

He’s talking about ergonomic office chairs in general, there are a few very good brands out there. Herman Miller and Steelcase come to mind but there are more, look into it!

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