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homeworkunicorn t1_j4kab1l wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
Would be cheaper and less stressful to just pay for him to stay in a cheap hotel. This is a no go for me :)
dreadhawkpunk t1_j4ka7nh wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
With the amount of people coming from abusive homes/relationships, I don't think this LPT would apply to half the population. This tip feels disingenuous at best, ignorant at worst.
JuicyBreeze t1_j4k9tib wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
What the fuck is wrong with you. Tell your family politely but firmly that this guy will be staying in a hotel. If you have to hide everything and throw away your food everything is definitely not fine.
AlekiaoftheNorth t1_j4k9asl wrote
Reply to comment by achatteringsound in LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
If it's too late to 'graciously' back out, I suggest OP back out without grace.
OP, get the locks changed if you have to. Don't let this person into your home if you don't trust them. The anxiety you're having already says enough about how this will impact your mental health.
Catmom2004 t1_j4k9adr wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
I am glad this is true for OP, but it is rarely true for me, tbh.
[deleted] OP t1_j4k97tc wrote
Reply to comment by usermaen1 in LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
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MaggieRV t1_j4k8vco wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
If you're that paranoid that you would consider taping your cabinets and want to know if they open the refrigerator (which is what I would consider to be very insulting), then you shouldn't have them over when you're not there.
Fabulous-Ant123 t1_j4k7kia wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
Damn, is it so hard to trust people? In my place we give one key to neighbours when we leave our home for few days.
illessen t1_j4k7bzx wrote
Reply to comment by No-Psychology1751 in LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
Have you ever seen the movie American Pie?
runningdreams t1_j4k745i wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
I love myself, love my life, blah blah...but I see some flaw with this LPT somehow some way. Feel guilty? Abundance of love? Caught up in own head? It was always there? These are so broad and absolutely not the case for so many folks. It seems to belittle some actual IRL issues.
mduzy124 t1_j4k6t12 wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
Just recall your invitation. 5-6 hours is not a long time. That person can manage.
[deleted] OP t1_j4k6ifh wrote
Reply to comment by Khalme in LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
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ArianneOakheart t1_j4k6h23 wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
>Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you
How do I do this?
Khalme t1_j4k4z5h wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
Careful with this. People in toxic relationships will gaslit themselves into thinking their abusive partner is caring.
thebug50 t1_j4k4bj4 wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
I'd have to know a person pretty freaking well and have developed a strong first hand trust to let them stay in my home without me there. Maybe I have trust issues, or maybe humanity is commonly gross, weird, and dishonest.
[deleted] OP t1_j4k4axu wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
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number31388 t1_j4k45ss wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
OP never met my family.
bk15dcx t1_j4k3uoy wrote
Reply to comment by sal696969 in LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
Yeah. This is a quest many will not complete, for the treasure does not exist
landob t1_j4k37el wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
Why can't this person just stay at the airport? I've slept for a few hours at the airport before.
usermaen1 t1_j4k34q9 wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
Seems harder esp in today’s age where you’re constantly reminded to always be on guard
-EvaCake- t1_j4k2yvu wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
I'm having a baby tomorrow while my mom stays at my house with my 3 yo. Of course she won't take anything, but she snoops big time. Wish I could see her face when she stumbles upon my sex toys and lubes in the closet. She's super conservative Baptist, so should scar her a bit lol
sal696969 t1_j4k2ssc wrote
Reply to LPT: Train yourself to immediately start recognizing every instance of care shown towards you. Make this a priority, and you'll honestly feel a bit guilty over the sheer abundance of love you were too caught up in your own head to notice. It was always there. Sincerely appreciate it. by [deleted]
Sadly not true for everybody....
Belzeturtle t1_j4k2jjv wrote
Reply to comment by zeroth1 in LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
... that we know of.
achatteringsound t1_j4k1u10 wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
This sounds like it’s outside your boundaries- but it might be too late to graciously back out. You’ll either find out that it felt good to take a chance on a family member or that you never want to do that again. Either way, something is gained.
homeworkunicorn t1_j4kakup wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]
Tell them that your toilet is broken (or any other household "fix" excuse you like, plumbing is good) and you are so sorry but they cannot stay there. Offer to give them 50 bucks towards a hotel. Any story you make up will work, any time it is "fixed" or "still isn't" is totally viable. Do it and don't look back.