If you this worried, then just tell them they can’t stay.

If you can't lock up the things he might contaminate, you will need to throw away anything suspect when you get back. Rather than stress and guess, decide whether you're willing to toss what you cannot sanitize. If not, (if doing that will cost more than an airbnb or motel room near the airport), make an excuse and change the plan. I'm sorry your family put you in this position.

You don't owe anyone your peace of mind about your own home.

He was the reason for breaking the relationship. Sounds like trashy

Also, usually family is better Plus its only 6 hours

Come on

What will he do in 5 hours. He's family.

Just tape a note on your fridge etc if you are so concerned.

Pizza, Snacks, Water and free bed for 6 hours is more than enough!

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exactly. Either OP is unhealthily attached to his fridge or OP's guest is satan or something.

This is just weird. Set some boundaries and say no.

I'm on the other side of the "this is crazy here".

It's a family member crashing at her place for a few hours while she's away. Is it possible that he's a creep? I guess, but then get him on a webchat and suss him out. If there's a reason he gives off a creepy vibe, then yeah don't let him in your house. And ok, why not lock up a few important things somewhere and tell him not to poke around in certain places? sure.

But otherwise, come on, I've had friends of friends crash at my place. Not that big a deal.

No way, they are actually asking, would you do something that makes you uncomfortable so that this relative whom you don’t know very well can be more comfortable. I mean, we could all chip in and get him a hotel but then that would require something from us. We want you to take this on alone. Many people think that we should do unreasonable things for “family”. Unreasonable for anyone is still unreasonable. They should never have put OP in that position. Asking for an unreasonable favor is their bad. OP saying no is reasonable. Why can’t this guy stay in a hotel or the airport like other travelers do all the time?

If you are that uncomfortable with someone in your home, don’t trust them, and don’t want them to know you don’t trust them, consider skipping the opportunity or being honest about your expectations.

Seriously, just say no. Tell the, you changed your mind and are simply uncomfortable with the idea of someone in your house when you’re away. If they understand, you’ll feel good about your decision, if they get mad, then you’ll know you made the right decision.

This is a good time to start saying no. Tell them you felt pressured and obligated to say yes but you really are not comfortable with it. He can spend 5 hours at the airport- I’ve done it many times, or they can chip in to rent him a hotel. If you say yes, then, them imposing on you could become a regular thing.

I just wonder how this turned out.

Your brother is fucking with you.

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I get this. The fam asked you to help him out and now you’re stuck. Or something like that. If you have a car, maybe lock stuff up in the trunk?

Or, if you’re willing to spend $60-70, you could get one of these.

Good luck! From what you’ve described, I would feel the same way.

>'m going to order and pay for pizza so he doesn't have to use my fridge.

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Wtf.

This does not sound normal to me. If you have that big concerns about this person, you should not let him stay in your place at all.

No, I'm getting lost in the loopholes of YouTube posts on this sub.

At some point you will no longer need them in your life. At that point you can consider limiting contact. Don't worry about what people think, sometimes it's necessary for your wellbeing.

My friend. Do not let this person into your home. If it’s not too late to back out now, explain that actually this won’t be possible, but you’re happy to chip in for a hotel. Then offer to pay whatever you’d have paid for the pizza and soda. If anyone has a problem with it, just be very apologetic but don’t actually explain why, you’ll just get into a debate. These people can’t force you to open your home to someone who you have been warned WOULD MESS WITH YOUR FOOD. Sometimes it’s ok to draw a boundary and stand firm, even if it means other relatives might be annoying. “I’m so sorry I won’t actually be able to help” keep repeating it. They’ll eventually forget and it’ll blow over.

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Reads a bit like a 'pull yourself together' post, akin to "just go for a walk if you're depressed".

:/ i want to feel like stuff varys

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Or, better, use piped to also get rid of google trackers