I counted 3/5.

I don’t know why you’d agree to this if it leaves you this concerned or anxious. 5-6 hours are nothing so I wouldn’t even have asked someone to crash, I’d just stay at the airport reading or watching Netflix. If possible, say you actually don’t feel comfortable so you cannot offer a place anymore.

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Read the comments-there appears to be more to the story.

At this point I am thinking that is indeed a possibility.

So why are you letting this person stay in your home???

Put him up at a hotel near the airport and don’t have him stay at your place.

Worrying about the guest finding grandma’s priceless jewelry or opening the display cabinet housing the signed Michael Jordan game ball from his last game is something to be concerned about. Secure/hide those items in a locked closet.

Worrying about your guest opening your refrigerator or kitchen cabinet while looking for a glass to get a drink of water is simply an unhealthy fear. Have them stay at a hotel.

There has to be something really freaky in the fridge, OP watches too much Dahmer

I would almost 100% look In the fridge but might not take anything I just like looking at food. Even if you don't have cameras, you should at least say something to make them think they are being recorded. It doesn't always work but it will seed his thought process. Also, just ask say that if they want something from the fridge let you know and maybe they could help you out getting anything replaced? You also have to remind them it is a favor and that you will remember this and expect an equal favor sometime. Most of my cousins would not come to my house tho, so you must be at least kinda nice

If my brother says, don’t let this guy around your food, then yeah I’m not letting this guy around my food. I trust my brother more than a distant relative I’ve never met. I take your point but I’m going based off the info I have. I’m not making accusations based on info I don’t have.

It’s simple, tell them sorry but you can’t let them stay and then recommend a hotel by the airport.

Does that prediction really pass any sniff test for you?

Good luck with the birth!

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JFC rescind the ok! You are more important than this random relative that you DONT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH!!!!

Have you spoken to him directly? God I hope so. And I hope some day you realize you never have to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. He could have rented a room at the airport hotel. No one needs to inconvenience you to this level.

Personally I would call him back and tell him or text him, I’m not comfortable w someone in my home when I’m not there, especially since we don’t have a personal relationship. My home will not be available to you in the 16th. (Insert date here).

then when the relatives start up say you can all pitch in $50 and rent him a room. My home is not a hostel and I was foolish to consider this for even a moment.

He’s been told this guy will do “twisted and unhygienic “ things to his food. It’s not selfish if I don’t want someone like that in my house, it’s called boundaries.

OP connecting with the family member:

“So what’s this I hear about you sticking your dick in people’s food?”

The OP has said he has been warned by other family members to lock up valuables and food around this person, though. If I heard that, no way this person would be staying with me but I’m also at the point in life where I can say no to people.

People are fucked up now. There's person, a relative ffs, who asked a favor. Just do it. Not much more thought needed. Hide your diamonds and rolexes. Otherwise, make them feel as welcome into your home as humanly possible. Quit being a selfish fuck. Go out of your way to make it a great 5-6 hours for them. And then start to approach life with a more positive approach. You need it.

“No” is an answer as well.

You are an adult and so is this relative. The person can make other arrangements.

Is it really a big issue that he use your fridge?

I thought you would be worry about some cash you left in some drawers

I’ve definitely had requests like this in the past from extended family that for some reason would rather reach out to family they barely know than get a hotel room.

I’m far too weak of a person to just outright say no, so I just make up excuses about why they can’t lol

Some people just have the mindset of if someone is family, then that’s enough. I can’t wrap my head around that. To me they are still strangers and we just happen to know some of the same people.