Pour a couple condoms with white dish soap and leave it in areas that you don't want the person to touch. Problem solved.

Honestly I can't even imagine myself asking for this kind of favor from a stranger. It's too big of an ask. That family member should at the very least directly ask this from you. Although the answer would be the same if it happened to me.

toothbrush

more like a perve who likes to jizz on things

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A hair placed in the jam of a closed cabinet or somewhere that falls out when opened, will let you know after the fact if someone opened something. Source: my brothers and I could never be trusted to stay out of our parents stuff. We finally found out how dad always knew.

I agree. There's more to this than "I don't know them very well". 😅

You're going to let a sandwich fucker into your apartment? What if he makes sandwiches, fucks them, then puts it back in your fridge? What if he poops and doesnt wash his hands and touches your light switch and then you touch your light switch and then you touch your eye and then you get pink eye. Does this ever happen to you??????

Just because your family is pressuring you to do this doesn't mean you have to. You can always go back on it and just explain that you're not comfortable having a stranger in your place. You said you hardly know him. It is your place that you're paying for and you don't have to allow anyone in there if you're uncomfortable with the idea. Just tell them the truth, you're not comfortable with the idea. Don't give in to their pressure.

I got roasted in another post for commenting that I would have told someone leaving an abusive relationship that no they absolutely could not stay at my house for a "single night". Anyone who has ever actually offered someone "leaving an abusive relationship" knows how that actually goes - exactly like you've just described. There's often drugs or alcohol involved at the end of the crappiest relationships, and I'm not up for putting my family or my belongings through that nonsense again.

As for the sickness didn’t op say they were going somewhere? Wouldn’t said sickness keep them home perhaps? Good thinking if op pretends to be home and cancels trip. It’s probably too late now but they could have said they are already having someone else stay. Or they could have someone else stay and house sit?

The word is "no". If you feel bad you can offer to split hotel fees.

Glad to hear you took charge.

People seem to forget that just because someone is family doesn't mean they are a good person. I have had to distance myself from a family member for my own peace of mind. Some of my friends are better family to me than my own family.

Does it include warm apple pie ?

>He's family.

There are MANY, MANY stories about parents stealing their own kids identities to open credit cards, etc, and all other sorts of other fuckery. A distant relative is no more trustworthy than a complete stranger. If they can afford a plane ticket they can afford a cheap hotel for the night.

I have made a conscious decision to be more decisive with family situations. In the past I was soft and wishy washy about things and my family took full advantage. I am seriously pissed off and have made a change in my life .
It definitely is good for mental health.

Don’t do it, OP. You’ll regret it and it’s already stressing you out. There’s a reason you’re leery. Go with your gut on this.

I think the other family members are holding back info about this guy. Hard NO at the initial request would have put this to bed.

You can always say no... I mean if you're this uncomfortable why agree to this? I'd only do this with someone I trust even if other family members ask. Afterall it's my personal private space.

Thank you so much !! I can finally be free of those goddamn shorts

Lol you crazy lunatic just don’t let him stay there if you are this worried

Twisted ones.

This is abnormal. If you’re this worried you should have said no.

No one I don't know well and trust would ever be allowed to stay in my home if I wasn't going to be there. Back out of this offer, OP. You don't owe the sacrifice of your security and peace of mind to anyone.

He Sounds like a drunk