Bully: taking out a knife and killing you

Yeah some bullies are psychopaths and capable of doing much worse should they be given a reason.

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“That’s my purse! I don’t know you!”

This is very poor advice. It’s the kind of thing people want to believe, but it’s rarely true.

i was bullied young

teachers didn't help

i ended up taking a tree branch to his head one time when he came at me again

teachers didn't see it

he didn't mess with me again

i saw he was working wendy's about 10 years ago

life's great.

…or fired.

I got bullied in school and fighting them, and getting my ass beat worked. They left me alone afterwards. Worst was a broken orbital. I learned I could take a lot more than I thought. Your mileage may vary.

I saw it happen a ton in high school. Bullies victimized people constantly and the victim was the only one who ever seemed to get punished. When my kid gets to that age, if I find out he's gotten suspended for fighting back against a bully I will happily take a week off of work and bring him on a father-son vacation. The administration is only ever interested in covering its own ass; bullying is something they can typically sweep under the rug and victims shouldn't be punished for defending themselves.

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Just accept that your "tip" was garbage and move on princess

This is actually a dangerous tip and using a superlative like “always” is a fools game. Many people die each year because they “stood up” to an unhinged person or tried to de escalate a situation and got shot.

Even worse. You don’t fight back and take the beating and still get expelled for fighting.

While this works to a degree, this sacrifices your own reputation more than it impacts the bully(ies). You're basically choosing a solo school life until the end of high school. Speaking from experience

Total pro! You’ve inspired me to do the same.

And bullies aren’t dumb. They typically are stronger than those who they pick on.

This is terrible advice. Most if the time bullies are looking for a reaction. If you give it to them they will keep coming back for more and escalating further and further if you try to ignore it.

What bullies are looking for is fear, embarrassment, shame, impotent rage, and the like. If you give it to them in any form they will never stop.

If you're capable of fighting them and winning, sure, that's a solution. If you're half their size and they can easily destroy you any attempt to fight back is just going to make them laugh and beat you up every day.

The first trick is to never rise to their bait. The second is to show confidence and lack of fear. If you project the idea that you don't want to fight but you're not going to back down from one, either, they will not target you and will usually pick on someone else.

In many situations, this is awful advice

I know a dude who avoided a mugging by singing a song to the would-be mugger. Got confused, looked for hidden cameras, and the dude ran away when the mugger’s head was turned.

Bad advice. There's no one solution fits all for dealing with bullies anyway.

Far too generic of a LPT as it will depend on the context of what happened, how they admitted they were wrong etc

Not exactly. Sometimes you must first attack while hiding

Most bullies want a reaction. The best thing to do is ignore them and act like what they're saying isn't bothering you.