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ketofern t1_j694296 wrote

Find something in the environment to talk about. For ex: I was at the dentist waiting room and Queen came on the radio. I asked this old lady next to me if she enjoyed a bit of Queen, she says she does like THE Queen (we’re in the UK), hilarity ensues and we chat for a full on 20 min until I get called in. :)

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keepthetips t1_j693uyl wrote

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BlueTeale t1_j68zcyg wrote

Not that my thoughts carry any weight but...

  • The people I know who naturally befriend everyone don't go into a conversation with an objective. The objective is just to talk with them
  • Ask questions about them, but be sure to relate or bring yourself in enough otherwise it's just an interview. Be sure to bring your own passion to the conversation (assuming it's relevant). We remember people for what makes them stand out. "Steve's the guy who really likes F1 racing", "BBQ Mark" etc.
  • Experienced folks, in my limited experience, aren't usually against sharing wisdom. Start off with, "I'm kind of new to X, and was curious how Y works. Because it seems like Z would be best option but ...." don't go on long. Leave the floor open to them, and then ask engaging questions.

I'll be honest I really struggled with this in my early to mid 20s. Ended up working with a lot of Owners/Executive types, all much higher caliber and experience level than me. I think my biggest mistake was thinking that I need contacts and therefore I went into each conversation with an objective. To befriend the other enough to be able to use them in the future.

This was the wrong approach, I never connected very well. And it's because I was trying to use people (even the ones I liked, it was becoming second nature).

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Ricwil12 OP t1_j68yyty wrote

Sorry I was not sufficiently communicative. In one instance two boys almost got into a fight on the soccer field. They were called by one teacher to calm down in separate rooms to write about who and why a team will win the world cup. The output was a gem in analytical football. One kept talking after the time out.They shook hands and walk together back.

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Ricwil12 OP t1_j68xk5t wrote

Most answers are actually describing hostile school environments. I perhaps used the word punishment instead of cooling down. One student went int a tantrum she considered the gesture of quietly pulling her away from embarrasment as positive. She was asked to write about what she has on her Facebook page. Wrote more than required

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keepthetips t1_j68wpof wrote

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Ricwil12 OP t1_j68w4b1 wrote

Perhaps the tip was not explanatory. The students actually voted it as useful and caring. This is not an assignment. It is to get them to open up. Two students were arguing loudly. They were called put in separate rooms and asked to write, why, how the will exercise control. Eventually they embraced.

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Alortania t1_j68ukiq wrote

This is on the same level as my cousin using "be good, or we'll go to the doctors" as a way to get her toddler to behave.

Sure, make writing/doc visits/dentists a punishment... that won't bite you in the ass (well, your kids)...

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Yakobee t1_j68uhc6 wrote

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keepthetips t1_j68s9h9 wrote

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keepthetips t1_j68puwe wrote

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