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CTDKZOO t1_j6aozhi wrote

>I care very much for this friend, I want to be kind and respectful to them, and this is coming from a place of wanting to understand them better. Since I wasn’t there when they decided to make this change, we’ve never really talked about it at all.

I've got some simple advice. Invite them to hang out and chat in a space where you both can have a candid but casual conversation. Then just ask them to tell their story. Your own words are the opening.

"I want to be a supportive and good friend. Would you be comfortable sharing your story and journey with me?"

Then listen

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littlemsshiny t1_j6aox9g wrote

One big change that hasn’t been addressed is that you had 2 jobs in 2021 and 1 job in 2022.

Every employer has to take out money for Social Security until you hit a certain maximum. When you switch jobs, the new employer deducts money for Social Security as if you’re starting at $0. It’s possible you overpaid on Social Security in 2021 and were refunded the amount you paid over the maximum. Now that you only have one job, you’re not overpaying Social Security.

https://turbotax.intuit.com/tax-tips/jobs-and-career/changing-jobs/L5ElUIrh6

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harley9779 t1_j6aohr4 wrote

This isn't an LPT. Its your personal issue with Home Depot.

Where would you suggest purchasing these various items. That would have been a better tip. " item x is better quality when purchased through x establishment.

All of the items you list come from several different manufacturers and are sold through Home Depot, Lowes, etc. Some brands are cheaper quality, some are better.

It also seems that you have an issue with parts being plastic instead of metal, which I agree with, but is the world we live in. Plastic is cheaper. Also, when it fails, the manufacturer has a repeat customer. We mostly don't repair things like we used to. Even when it is a simple repair.

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August850 t1_j6anywb wrote

I can tell that your heart is in the right place, and you want to be kind and respectful to your friend. You're doing great about using their pronouns. I agree with everyone else's advice to not worry too much about it, though I know that it's easier to respect somebody different from you when things "make sense". Here are a couple things to think about.

>“if they see know they’re girly, and are okay with it, why does it bother them to be seen as a girl? They LOVE skirts and makeup, and strives for the same feminine beauty as I do?”

Could you imagine a man who likes skirts and makeup? Maybe a man who works at a beauty studio and always has his nails done, or a man headed out to a gay bar. What about a woman who likes manly things, like jeans and short hair?

>My first thoughts were something along the lines of “why would they chose to live a kind of life that makes then feel that way?”

I'm assuming you're a woman, since you say you also strive for feminine beauty. Sexism makes your life hard. Does complaining about sexism mean that you don't like being a woman? If you could snap your fingers and become a man, would you want to? Even if it would make your life easier?

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keepthetips t1_j6amwgi wrote

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