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virusofthemind t1_j6crooq wrote

Ask them for advice on something. Everyone likes giving it and the fact you asked the person presupposes to them that you hold them in high regard.

Once you have the advice act on it. If it goes well tell the person and say thanks. If you're lucky you could end up with a mentor who will look after your interests if they're in a higher position than you.

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MastrovNL OP t1_j6cqeh6 wrote

Yeah I'm afraid we have to. The issue is that we have to pay legal fees in advance. And if we win (which we probably will) she has to pay it back. But she doesn't have any money. So it's kind of a gamble if it would cost us more money or not. Thanks for your help!

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MastrovNL OP t1_j6cpk53 wrote

The Netherlands. She has a year contract with us which can only be ended after a year or when a judge decided she has to go (after 3 months on no payment). She kinda left the house and moved to her bf because the bills started piling up and she can't pay. So I'm stuck with a room where I cant put in a new renter.

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PeggysPonytail t1_j6cpfyp wrote

"That's sounds horrible! I'm so sorry you're going through this." After they have sufficiently vented, ask if there's anything at all you can do to help. Offer a few small comforts (a seat and a glass of water'll do). Be physically comforting in the appropriate way for your relationship. Maybe just a soft hand on their shoulder. Talk calmly and soothingly to bring the general temperature of the conversation down. Then, just pay attention and BE THERE with them. This is what I always want when I am venting, and it seems to work for people I care about.

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