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Darqnyz t1_j6emf7v wrote

You don't have to be good at it. You don't have to enjoy it. You don't even have to progress.

You have to want it. That's the bare minimum. If you are doing it because your crush is doing it, it's not gonna keep going. If you're doing it because your family insists on it, it's not gonna last.

You have to do it because you want to do it. Everything else that helps will reinforce you. But as long as that core is there, you will succeed eventually

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keepthetips t1_j6elz5u wrote

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trymypi t1_j6eij7w wrote

Not saying this is wrong, but the opposite can sometimes help. Speaking your goal outwardly and telling people can help you commit to it, and avoid saying why it didn't work. Possibly even proving some people wrong.

Still, I agree with you because this is not always the case. Plenty of things I want to do for myself, other things some people just don't care about, so why bring it up.

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Sekmet19 t1_j6efmkj wrote

Change passwords on all wifi and streaming. Shut off anything nonessential, like cable TV. If you shut off essentials like water or electric that can be construed as illegal eviction so be wary of that. That said, take all your belongings out of common areas and move into bedroom or storage. Nothing says she can use your TV, dishes, toilet paper, dish soap, towels, couch, air freshener, etc. Remove all food and toiletries to your bedroom. Put a lock on your bedroom door.

Be careful who you rent to, and start the eviction process as soon as you are able.

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emo_rat119 OP t1_j6edfzh wrote

That’s all I want. I tried to ask about itlast time we hung out, and they instantly seemed so anxious and gave me such short simple yes or no replies, and didn’t try to expand on anything I asked or they answered. I just… I don’t know how to start that without making them feeling like they’re just being questioned.

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yanbu t1_j6e8lxj wrote

Instead of saying to yourself: “I don’t have time for this” start saying “I am not making this a priority right now.” Reframing things that way makes it easier to see that it’s you that’s the problem. And for things you’re ok with not being a priority, well that’s probably fine.

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MastrovNL OP t1_j6e8eug wrote

Yeahh sadly we have a contract, she did some payments by bank transfer, and we have whatsapp conversations about everything. Hence why I feel kinda stuck, since the Dutch housing system is all about protecting the tenant. I guess we're going to keep pushing her and threaten with legal stuff. In the meantime, I'll be an asshole and suddenly change the wifi or accidentally turn off the water when I leave for the weekend :)

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