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Bro that’s a whole road trip 😂

I did law school evenings, while working full time. Really it is about time management. You can't have wasted time. Think about what you can get done during your commute. Are there times during the work day that allow for studying? I got a 30 minute lunch and two 15 minute breaks. Are there aspects of your work when you can multitask? While some of my work is really intellectually demanding, other parts are mind-numbingly tedious.

I read during my commute (train). I did homework during my lunch. I listened to downloaded review materials while doing any repetitive or low-mind-capacity tasks.

I used one full weekend day for school work. I took one full weekend day off from work/school to help prevent burnout. I was still pretty burnt out by the end. I got pretty respectable grades (top quarter of my class), but was surprised that even though it was a part time program, many students weren't employed outside of school. Be prepared to compete with people who have a LOT more time than you.

A man or a woman can lose fat. I get some people are built bigger etc but you can lose weight. However, you can’t control your height. Your weight is directly affected by your choices however height is just random.

I have nystagmus. No wonder I can't keep out the intrusive thoughts. Literally impossible to keep my eyes still.

He might not get it. He might think it's self-deprecating humor--he might, honestly, think that he's being funny and humble and relatable. Seriously.

It's worth asking him in a gentle confrontation.

He might also just not know how to get POSITIVE attention.

I know something that rocked my mindset (though I'm not sure how to make it practicable here): we did an exercise in a workshop I was in where we wrote down all our negative self talk. Then the trainer asked us "would you talk like that to your closest and best friend? Would you tell them 'you suck, you're so terrible, you never do anything right'?"

Yeah, well, if you wouldn't talk to your best friend like that, why are you talking to yourself like that?

Another nugget: Cheri Huber, my favorite American Buddhist, said (and I'm paraphrasing) that if beating ourselves up actualy worked to make us improve, we'd all be perfect by now. Beating yourself up doesn't work as self improvement.

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I see you , religious extremism. You can't hide from me.

Welcome to the club.

Learn to practice meditation so you can live in the present and not in the past.

5 hour commute? To your job?? You couldn’t find anything closer?

Overtaking him with love would be fun. I wish I could see the progress he would make if he was riddled with positivity. After laughing and being grossed out, he may break.

Honestly man, people pick on you right now but in a few years, that won't really matter.

People don't really care about your looks in the real world, unless they like you.

Kids your age are just assholes but don't listen to them. They're just insecure about themselves and making fun of you helps relieve their insecurity.

As hard as it may be, try to ignore them as much as you can. You'll be okay

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Just tell him straight out. You'll be doing him a favor saying it clearly or he's going to be wondering why no one wants him around anymore.

I have formed a habit of just never watching two episodes of the same show in one day.

Make it a hard rule.

If they say, my mother was a narcissist say , oh your mother was a narcissist? Let them talk. Add a few personal details yourself but mostly show your are listening to them and understand. Draw them out.

If they say, my mother was a narcissist say , oh your mother was a narcissist? Let them talk. Add a few personal details yourself but mostly show your are listening to them and understand. Draw them out.

I like people who curse. It makes them seem more genuine. I’m also very articulate and curse constantly. It has nothing to do with “effectiveness of communication” Your opinion, and that’s all it is, is stupid

Yup. I learned this lesson years ago. And once you know, your dealings with them are a lot different.

I think the best way to handle this is to explain in a direct assertive manner how his complaining is bringing you down. Furthermore it is not healthy and in no way will help him win nor bowl better or ever be agreeable to anyone including him/her. Direct is best but all too often we're told things in an off hand way and given a riddle to solve. Pepple are so afraid of confronting issues these day,directly.

I like the nerf gun approach as well.

Be fucking honest and transparent.

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I wonder what would happen if you all cheered him on? Whenever he says he’s doing something poorly or wrong in response “Are you serious man? You got this! Keep going! You can do it!”

He is talking himself into it when he talks down to himself. It sounds like he thinks that way or he just wants to be uplifted?

I totally understand how it can be frustrating and exhausting. If you feel it inside you to talk to him then do what you feel is right. It might be what he needs. If he is really down about himself then I’d recommend doing it kindly. How would you want to be talked too?

When the situation could occur like before bowling or such you could tell a story that concludes with you saying: people who complain only are annoying.

And when your friend ultimately start with his complaining, you can tell him that he complains a lot.

If this does not work, you have to straight up tell him.