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keepthetips t1_j903xzd wrote

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Gothperception13 t1_j90012n wrote

That's a good question. I'm terrible at being subtle and usually just point blank say something like I'm sorry, but I don't really feel like conversing right now and proceed to ignore them. I'm hoping someone is able to provide some good suggestions.

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thefourthchime t1_j8zzjaf wrote

Hey, I totally get it - sometimes you're just not in the mood to chat. It happens to all of us! If you want to avoid small talk, there are a few things you can try.

First, you can give a friendly greeting and then quickly excuse yourself. Maybe say something like "Hey, good to see you! Sorry, I gotta run."

If that doesn't work, you can always say you're busy. Like, "I wish I could chat, but I've got a ton of stuff to do right now."

Another option is to change the subject. Maybe ask them about something interesting going on in their life, or mention something you're excited about.

And if all else fails, you can just be honest and tell them you're not really in the mood to talk right now. It might be a little awkward, but at least you'll be true to yourself!

Just remember to be respectful and kind in whatever approach you take. Good luck!

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great_equator t1_j8zzgex wrote

Try not to expand on what they’re saying, and then validate (summarize) every single thing they just told you. “It sounds like you had a great time over vacation, going to the beach and seeing your family”

That’ll immediately tie up any conversational loose ends, and probably create a short silence (after the person says “yeah” etc.) for you to jump in with an excuse to leave.

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openurheartandthen t1_j8zyc1b wrote

Usually I find a way to simply excuse myself politely. Say I need to use the restroom, or tell them I need to step away for a moment. No need to give a reason. You can still be gracious in speech but tell them in a honest way you need to step out.

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keepthetips t1_j8zxui5 wrote

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