Its sold everywhere. Its not some difficult to find chemical. But it ll ruin your bedsheets unless they are white sheets.

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Neck traction bag. not a doctor but I had a compressed disk. My doc was ready to do spinal surgery but a doctor friend recommended one of these:

https://www.cvs.com/shop/dmi-cervical-neck-traction-device-prodid-327551?sV.

Weighted bag, hangs from a door and stretches the head and neck upwards. Absolutely life changing for me. I was literally bedridden before I started using it. Strengthening exercises help a ton too and keep it from coming back. But this got me able to move my head side to side when I was having terrible pain and spasms.

Thanks. That works too.

Not suddenly.

I switched to triathlons. We don't need to swim and bike rides can be way more social than you're used to in the pool. It's been good for me (except the COVID break...)

That's terrible. Someone such as their employer should pay them better.

If you agree, then I would recommend deleting this post and making a new LPT about supporting businesses who pay their employees ethically. Because your post does not send that message.

You’ve gotten some great advice so far. But I’d like to point out that we don’t know your current financial situation - so for those who have suggested talking to a therapist that might not be possible currently as a session can run a couple hundred dollars depending on where you’re located if you don’t have the funds to do so.

A cheap and effective way is to just read some self help books on anger management - you can check them out for free at your local library. When I was in high school I got and read most of all the self help books from the library by my school and I truly believed most of those books helped shaped how I approach a lot of things in my life as an adult.

Also, my last advice which I always found to be quick and effective is just to literally walk away from situation to remove yourself from whatever is frustrating you to avoid making things worse. For example, your sibling spills some water on you as oppose to shouting at them and yelling obscenities- you could just excuse yourself and go into a different room to give yourself time to calm down.

I have a younger brother whom I haven’t spoken to in almost 6 years because of his inability to control his anger. One day during an argument (over text of all places) something inside of me just died toward him and I haven’t looked back. I have a daugther now whom I have tried hard to keep away from him. We see each other at family gatherings but I no longer acknowledge him.

Only you can control how you behave and respond around others. And they are in control of whether or not they wish to be around you.

Maybe employees can stand up to their employers.

Ah, okay. Judging by your post history, you’re not in a great headspace. I hope you feel better and stop taking it out on innocent people trying to provide a necessary service and make a living. I promise, life is more fun if you’re kind <3

Help. I’ve been stuck in my driveway for 2 days now and I’m getting very thirsty. It’s cold too, and I’m running out of fuel. I’ve checked for motor cycles, and I’ve checked again. I still don’t see any, but I have to check again before I can move. Idk why I need to find them, but I’m too scared not to. This advice is killing me

Why do you let employers underpay you?

Bottom line is you know nothing about me…. And you seem like you have poor judge of character based off your comments. You made yourself sound incredibly shallow.

Finally someone with logic.

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Everyone’s agreeing with you that servers are underpaid in terms of hourly wage and that they shouldn’t rely on tips. However, your execution causes more harm to the servers as an immediate action.

One thing is that according to US law, if an employee's tips combined with the employer's direct wages of at least $2.13 an hour do not equal the Federal minimum hourly wage, the employer must make up the difference. So instead of making more than minimum wage based on getting a lot of tips, they’re just making the minimum.

I understand the greater picture and that you’re hoping for change to occur for the employer, but the more realistic outcome is that they just get minimum wage, which in some states is less than 8 dollars. So this is a federal issue, not an employer issue.

EDIT: The best thing you can do is support businesses that actually pay a decent hourly wage plus allow tips for the employees and don’t give your business to everyone else. By eating at those restaurants but not tipping, you’re still supporting them and actively not supporting the servers. Reward the businesses that align with your views on wages.

I’m pretty sure that you won’t create change by putting the burden of that change on the lowest paid and least powerful stakeholder.

Your life pro tip keeps more money in your pocket while sending a poorly paid person home with even less.

I agree that this needs to change. Exclusively go to restaurants that pay well and don’t allow tipping. Promote them on social media. Talk to the next political candidate that shows up at your door about whether your state or province has lower-than-minimum wage law exemptions for hospitality workers and ask if they will change it.

Life Pro Tip: don’t expect people who can barely afford a living to happily sacrifice more for your aspirations.

It only works on fresh blood.

Assuming it's already been through the dryer, most likely your stain is set and won't come out (sorry), at least the sheets are dark and the stain isn't so bold

I am not in the USA and I don't need to tell the server I don't tip. They already know that nobody will tip.

They pay their bills fine.

Now that you mention it, yes. Seems to make the blind spot on the driver's side smaller. Thanks again.

There was a lot of “important” information about me that was left out of that post. You made an ignorant assumption of me based off of about idk 75 words? This is something I really struggle with and have for a long time, and if I don’t fix it, it’s going to take me back out. I was genuinely asking for any help anyone had, because this life or death for me personally.

But you went out of your way to try and make me feel small and unworthy, because I didn’t include that I have apologized and tried to fix things? Because it’s “important to you”?

Yet I sound like the terrible person?

One last thing, you also tried to make sound like a selfish person because I wanted advice on how to heal, but the main and really the only current reason I want to heal is so that I can continue to be there and continue being a good mom to 4 year old son, to give him the life he deserves. One thing I am not, is selfish. I’m incredibly selfless actually, to a fault.

If you feel so strongly about this, the only thing to do is to completely avoid establishments that don’t pay their workers fair wages without tips.

If you go to a standard US restaurant and pay money for the food but do not tip, you are supporting the employer whose practice you claim to oppose while harming the employees you claim to support.

People with better offers do. People that don’t take what they can get.