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Brainfewd t1_jaa7wz0 wrote

This is the best advice, and it stretches beyond cleaning.

My wife and I have been together for 8 years, we’ve really never so much as had a disagreement on almost anything. And that’s simply because we just talk things out when they come up. Just have to be open minded and willing to see and understand your partner’s viewpoint (which it sounds like OP already has a good grasp on).

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keepthetips t1_jaa73d3 wrote

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lucidlywisely t1_jaa5yb1 wrote

I think her demands are a bit unreasonable. i recommend the book How to Keep House While Drowning by LC Davis and look at what is functional for cleaning versus internalized ideals of what “clean” means.

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Cutegun t1_jaa5cw7 wrote

When I worked in film we used a concoction called "the russian bath". It's a spray bottle of one to two vodka and water. We'd use it to freshen up the casts wardrobe between scenes, and was great at getting out BO.

But also, to reiterate what others have suggested, check the care label. It maybe time to run it over to the drycleaners for an annual wash.

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senor_roboto t1_jaa4sm8 wrote

This is the answer. I use these on most of my shoes and boots and the combination of the elastic and the spring-loaded slide make them easy to put on, easy to tighten (at any point), and easy to take off plus you never have to worry that your shoe will become untied.

Definitely a must for anyone. You'll never want to have shoes without them again.

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shortstack7365 t1_jaa4aqq wrote

There is some give and take here for both sides. I saw another comment that recommended finding some tasks she doesn't like or that your are good at and make sure you're on top of them like it's your job. I am the dishes and vacuuming guy at my house for various reasons. Laundry is her domain (because I'm incapable of remember to change the load and garbage at folding...). The rest we split up and tackle together. We both have to accept that we don't like living in other people's mess, even messes of ones we love. Sometimes that means you might have to clean a little more frequently than you like. Likewise, she may need to let a mess sit for a short while for you to take care of it.

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medoane t1_jaa1x0b wrote

Easiest thing is to help her when you see her cleaning up. She’s doing dishes? Help her rinse or put them away. She’s vacuuming? Get out a rag and start dusting. Make it a group activity and it’ll go a long way. Do that for a few weeks and it’ll quickly become habit. Good on you to recognize that you’re the problem and make an effort to help keep a tidier house.

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Deezus1229 t1_jaa12o6 wrote

>they teach this in like 9th grade

Correction, they're SUPPOSED to teach this in 9th grade. However, I found out the hard way when I cited Wikipedia in my first college-level essay and my professor failed that entire paper because of it.

I took honors and AP-level English in high school, not once did they ever dock points or correct us for citing Wikipedia. Some schools just suck.

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