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sephiroth3650 t1_jadjgid wrote

If you're not particularly close, you shouldn't expect to get invited to her wedding. Whether somebody else was invited or not is irrelevant. It's her wedding. She's not obligated to invite anybody that she doesn't actively want there. Nor does a person need to justify why they didn't invite somebody to their wedding. It's entirely possible that she views you as a work acquaintance, and not a friend who she actively wants at her wedding. There is no justifiable reason for you to feel crushed by this. There is no reason for you to invest any emotional energy into trying to figure out why you weren't invited. The best thing you can do is move past it, and spend time being with people who are close friends with you.

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Dangercakes13 t1_jadjdn0 wrote

Since I usually have a portfolio or some similar notebook with me and I know the people who act like this; I just keep scribbling stuff in my thing and act like I wasn't listening or maybe passively listening, so then I can just be like "I'm sorry, what was that?"

If you make jerks repeat something out loud it throws off their rhythm. If they bother to repeat it, then you can just say "oh ok, cool" and turn back to your scribbles.

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Obwyn t1_jadivqz wrote

I find it strange that you think the landlord is going to trash your rental checks to use that as an excuse to evict you rather than accepting your rent money. There has to be way more to this story or you're completely paranoid.

Assuming there's any actual basis for your concern:

You can send it certified mail so it requires a signature upon delivery so you know it was actually delivered to the landlord. As far as the actual payment goes, get your bank to issue a cashier's check directly to your landlord and then film yourself putting it in the envelope with all the certified mail stickers, etc on it. If he signs for the delivery and then for some bizarre reason trashes the check rather than depositing it and then tries to initiate eviction proceedings that should be a pretty easy case to prove in court that you did in fact send payment and he received it.

No reasonable person is going believe that someone would get their bank to issue a cashier's check written out to their landlord to pay their rent, film themselves putting it in a sealed envelope, and then mailing that sealed envelope through certified mail requiring a signature on delivery and not actually send it. Especially when you can easily produce the bank records to show that the check was actually issued and that you never returned the check to your account.

I think a scenario of a landlord just shredding someone's rent checks so they can try to evict them unlikely as well, but less unlikely than someone doing all these steps to show proof they sent payment not actually sending payment. There are some shitty landlords out there. If it's a matter of them wanting to jack up the rent or something and they can't because you have a lease then it would be way easier for them to just not renew your lease when it ends than try to do a bs eviction.

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Favoniuz7 t1_jadikjq wrote

Talk to them privately, and ask why they're doing that. I forgot where, but I've read that sometimes people do unconsciously do that because they want to connect by sharing a similar experience. They may not notice what they're doing and not realize how that makes you feel.

If they still do it after, call them out in public there and then. You already did your part by being thoughtful and speaking in private. No need to keep that up if they still do it.

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Lexafaye t1_jadh9hn wrote

Depends: if you put the clothes in the dryer then no. If you have a stain (or smell) on clothes that has not come out in the washer, the dryer will set the stain (or bake in the smell)

Moisten then treat with dish soap specifically (which is formulated for grease) you may have to repeat this process several times but if you didn’t put the jeans in the dryer then the stain should eventually come out

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