Just look at them blankly and go “oh” and move on to the next topic

It's almost like communication is key to a good relationship. For some relationships, joint money is fine. For some relationships, separate is better. There is no one-size-fits-all advice for this kind of thing.

You make great points. All I can think is, “it depends”. This is coming from a person that cuts people out of their life routinely. I don’t have time for negative people - but I do have a little time to help them. Maybe out of guilt from my past decisions.

What if I can afford to tip?

I use lye bahaha

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we even split doing the bed. I do the sheets and the pillows and she does the duvet. I hate doing the duvet can't get the technique, she can't lift our heavier mattress as easily as me to do the sheets and she's crap with the pillows.

food shopping I pack it all into bags (frozen/fridge/cupboard/delicate) and bring it into the kitchen and she unpacks it all.

but she hates ironing and I'm rubbish at it / don't care about it. So I just don't have ironed clothes and she irons what she needs. Might iron a suit/shirt on the rare occasion I need one. That's sort of figured out I suppose.

Gotta find the balances.

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Hot tip. I think we'll request to wire transfer.

There is definitely a lot more to the story. We're just the tenants, been here some years, and are just now learning about the family drama around this property... control has just changed hands and the vibes are bad... Pretty sure he wants to sell it ASAP.

I have a boss who does this. Even in situations where it’s not truly possible to one up, he still makes a huge effort. I’ve ignored it up to this point, but it really is aggravating. It doesn’t give me any opportunity in any situation to express any professional ideas or input in meetings, because he never allows for that in the conversations. It doesn’t even give me the opportunity to share what I’ve accomplished as part of team meetings where there is that stated expectation.

I earn 5 times what my partner does, a joint account seems egregious to me.

When I was younger, I was the one-upper, so here’s what hurt me: don’t give them the satisfaction of verbal/expressive-validation; apathy on the face of an audience cuts deep. Better yet, if they start their one-up story, don’t let them finish it — show them you are so uninterested in their antics that you’re distracted by something minute happening elsewhere.

Most importantly, if you are close to someone who is a one-upper, just tell them. Their future friendships and and relationships will thank you.

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To add to this.

If anyone has access to talcum powder, or maybe even make up powder (but be careful with this) we'd put the talcum powder over the oil drop on our clothing. The talcum powder helps to soak up some of the oil.

This can only be done on fresh stains, though.

You also don't want to use vinegar with an Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm.

There is a difference between routine (daily washing) use and occasional (cleaning) use.

Grandmas Secret Spot Remover

im sure it’s something very basic that they charge an arm and a leg for but it works like magic

bonus points for anyone who knows what it’s made with

To answer your question op, find something else for that day. Keeping busy by engaging in something will not only distract you but widen your horizons outside of the workplace.

Lots of variations on "just ignore it" here, but that's harder than it sounds. Chances are you are hoping for positive acknowledgement when sharing something you're excited about, only to be rejected by the one upper. There's nothing wrong with wanting to share things, but you do have to know your audience. If the person you are talking to is an asshole, keep your expectations low. Save that stuff for your cool nice friends with basic human decency who will make you feel good about yourself instead. It's also not the easiest thing to admit to yourself that someone you thought was your friend, turns out to need special distance because of immature tendencies.

Is this Apple's attempt at preserving battery life or something?

You should have signs pretty early in the relationship if your partner is irresponsible with money so you can plan accordingly. Also consider a prenuptial agreement; it just keeps things simpler.

That's the intended functionality.

Clean Energy tries to reduce power draw during high-traffic times for the local power grid.

Optimized Battery pauses your charge at 80%, then finishes it later to save your battery health.

Both features try to learn your daily routines and only activate during your learned off-hours, and will always pop a notification of "Hey, I'm doing this" with an option to override and charge normally.