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_Chug t1_jaelava wrote

Nope, I have actually settled into a comfortable position that has many spots to fill and doesn't require me to advance in order to stay relevant or valuable. I'm a journeyperson, and have no ambition to proceed into management as I would not gain adequate value from addition pay, at least not enough to warrant the loss of free time that I would incur. I have however noticed that were I to wish to advance, time spent and effort shown would infact 100% be the way in which I could secure a higher position.

Way to make assumptions though.

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Speedking2281 t1_jael5bl wrote

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They sell them at our grocery store locally, and we bought some not long ago. Not long after, at a baseball game, our daughter was eating a slice of folded pizza, and the grease dripped from the crease in the pizza and onto a gigantic grease spot on her shirt. With two washes (following the directions), the grease spot was gone.

It has also gotten bacon grease out of my own shirt.

I don't know what they put in that stuff, and as a 40 year old man, I've gotten grease stains on my shirts here and there for many years, without anything (even all sorts of things from the internet) actually helping. Until these things. Carbona grease getter-outer is one of those products that I will tell everyone about, because it's just that great of a product.

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BrainGiggles t1_jaekgte wrote

Gathering from the information that you had shared, it seems that the bride may have felt it would been insensitive to invite you to her wedding when you were going through some relationship issues. Or it could just be that she didn’t think you guys were close enough to warrant an invitation.

I don’t know where you’re located, or anything about your culture or the bride’s. But I’m Asian and I’m located in Southern CA. Growing up my family (and alot of our other Asian friends and family) viewed receiving a wedding invitation as a sign of a bill/debt to pay. Even if you weren’t close to the bride and groom, there was a social expectation to gift a certain amount in cash or check (non monetary gifts are frowned upon in the Asian culture). The standard amount was $100 per person attending (it may be $200 now due to raising prices). So imagine if you’re working in a company where 60% of the employees are Asian and you don’t all know each other but yet every few months you get a wedding invitation for you and your S.O. to attend. I have older siblings and I remember hearing them complain and bitch about attending another co worker’s wedding. Of course people could just always decline - but if you decline then when it’s YOUR turn to get marry people won’t attend your wedding and won’t return the monetary gifts. It’s a very tit for tat kind of arrangement and gross I know. I’m glad when I got married my husband and I opted to tell our guests not to bring gifts to remove the possible stressors. But anyway, what I’m saying is that my siblings and I guess my parents would have been thrilled not to have been invited to the wedding of a coworker whom they hardly knew.

You should check out some local comedy clubs in your area for that day and just go spend the evening at a comedy club and enjoy yourself with a friend or two!

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ConvenienceStoreDiet t1_jaejuu1 wrote

I think it's great to dream big. But usually there's something underlying that's trying to be resolved, some need or want within us. To be seen, to be heard, to be validated, to be loved, to have security, to have adventure, to find love, do be creatively open, to experience. All of those things can be achieved without "the thing" being achieved.

One person put it best. One Olympian was being congratulated for winning and being the best, and replied, "I was the best today." Ain't that something. They dreamed for the biggest of the big. And for a variety of so many factors that lined up, that person on that day got their moment. Imagine if they tripped in the hotel an hour before or missed a flight or one of a million reasonable things happening. It doesn't mean it's all over. It just means you didn't get THAT moment. And even if you did get it and it felt good, it doesn't mean it's supposed to last, or that you'd enjoy it if you had it all the time. You get your turn. And then life comes back. You still have to take out the trash, do the laundry, and read to your kids.

And if that big dream doesn't happen to be it, it'll be another. I remember watching an interview with Oscar Isaac who got a starring role in the Star Wars movies. The interviewers were saying, "dude, you're in the biggest franchise ever. That's gotta be the best thing ever." And he was like, "yeah, that's cool, but you know my kids are my life and my world." Dreams and life and everything are meant to change, sometimes the biggest thing stops being that important after a while.

One last one. I was talking with another fellow actor. He was like, "you did THIS!" And I was like, "you did THAT!" And we were sitting there getting jealous of each other's accomplishments. He brilliantly replied in a way that reminded me that we could sit there and look at what the other person did and just drive ourselves mad and never be happy with what we have, but it's best to look at the fact that we were both doing fine.

So it's best to try for something big, appreciate what you do have, and not let your happiness be determined by the outcome. You'll probably be fine.

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_Chug t1_jaejiwq wrote

This is a terrible take. While it CAN be seen as you have suggested, it is completely false that these things go unnoticed or unrewarded, especially when there is competition in the workplace. It's irresponsible to say this.

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