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BunInTheSun27 t1_jaeu3z6 wrote

Disclaimer: I am a late-bloomer socially, but I do generally like talking with people when not under attack from weird forms of social anxiety.

Something along the lines of acknowledging what they said first would help. I.e, “Oh cool, you went to Paris!“

Then, ask follow-up questions: “I’ve heard there’s great food in France. What was a favorite meal there?”

Acknowledge again: “A simple croissant at the Louvre? Sounds lovely.”

Question more if you’d like: “Did you get to do everything you hoped for?”

Acknowledging again: “Ah, Notre Dame was still under construction from the fire. I heard about that, what a shame.”

Tbh you can do this for as long as you’d like. It gets easier the more you do it. Of course there is the chance of coming off as a interviewer, which is why acknowledging what they said and sympathizing (meal at the Lourve = lovely, missed out on Notre Dame = a shame) are important. But people like talking about themselves generally, so it’s easier than you’d think.

It’s possible to hold an entire conversation without talking about oneself. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Leaving them to want more is ok! Wanting to connect is a human trait, it’s an honor to be the witness to someone else’s sharing. Your time to share will come, and with practice you might find that if they never ask you a direct question themselves, you can decide how much energy to give then. Does that make sense?

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Competitive-Ad7847 t1_jaesxpe wrote

Acknowledge what they are doing when they do it, feel free to bring it up in a joking way. Publicly or privately, doesn't matter. Give them an out in the sense that you do not seem overly offended while still bringing the issue up. This sets the baseline for you to establish a "here goes Alex the one up King/queen" joke if they persist which is a deterrent in itself. If they get offended down the road, it just makes them look even less self aware... Jokingly and assertively acknowledging things immediately allows a great deal of control over your interactions.

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TwoPastorTacosPlease t1_jaesdjr wrote

This should go without saying, but please, thank you, and basic respect for the person you're dealing with go a long way. A very nice woman at Geico found a way to cut my insurance premiums in half, and I've negotiated away countless toll fees for friends and family members. Hotel workers, hosts/waiters, and airline workers will also hook you up.

Customer service reps get so much shit from people, and if you're the nicest person they speak to that day they will help you.

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