Perhaps that's the nuance that I mean then 🤔 I feel like I judge negatively to quickly, without knowing the story or facts, for example. I'd like to keep a more open mind.

Thanks and just watched. Really interesting and very helpful.

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This is a tall ask in todays environment. I like to think of the parable of the "public door". People tend to give the benefit of the doubt and unjudgingly open a door for a random person entering a store or market. It's a random act of kindness to a stranger. That stranger could be an unfaithful husband, or cruel to animals....yet you opened the door for him or her. Be humble, practice random acts of kindness, and ask yourself do you have faults that justify others to judge you? But if they are cruel to animals, spit in their face and key their car!

Were you just r/whooshitywhoosh-whoosh'd?

Or a counter sort of /s²? Hmmmm.....I'm going to have to think about this one. It just might have been crafty.

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Beats me. I hate the kind of people that ask this.

The Boomer generation I know talked shit about every one. That behavior and thinking gets passed down. It sucks to be on the receiving end. I work on it and I will not do that to my child and will break the cycle.

I agree with the comment that judging is normal. Every creature makes judgements about every situation it's in. Trying to completely turn that off might make a person more susceptible to risks.

I think it's more important to learn not to act on every little judgement that comes to mind.

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Just realise that people have come to where they are on a different path with different experiences to you. They may know more than you, or they may know less. You can't change people to be like you and you will go mad trying, you can only help people who want it. Other than that it sounds like you already have a new perspective to build on. And honestly a little judgement is fine, you aren't made of stone, but just make sure you don't hurt anyone in the process and are there if they need you.

judgment is normal. it can be advantageous, knowing how to read dangerous people before things happen. if you were oblivious to everyone, you wouldnt stay safe. if youre not acting on your judgment i dont see the problem. im always roasting people in my head “WHAT ARE THOSEEEE” but i dont say anything, i just go on about my day.

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One of the hardest things about changing any part of our behavior, especially where our brain jumps to, is it takes time and patience, so be gentle with yourself.

I recommend watching the video “This is Water” by David Foster Wallace. It’s part of a commencement speech he gave, but it’s about choosing the way we think rather than falling into our “natural default settings.” It helped me a lot on my own journey of being less judgemental.

Good luck with everything.

I recently was diagnosed with a medical condition and was subject of a lot of judgement. Being on the receiving end made me realise how horrible it feels. I really want to change my own behaviour and am wondering how.

I noticed that I myself am Quick to jump to judgment, even if I don't share it out loud. So how to I change my line of thought?

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You should compare both the itemized bill from the hospital and your insurance EOB. If you went to a hospital that is in your insurance network, the hospital bill should match the insurance EOB’s “amount you owe”. If there are some things that are not be covered by insurance, you can still try to get the hospital to charge you for the “network fee” and not their overinflated fee.

I understand the longevity of bread depends on how much preservatives it has, lol...my point was if ANY bread is going bad in a day...you have a LOT of bacteria in your kitchen and air...

EDIT: Place a glass of water next to your potatoes in your kitchen and one in your living room...the glass next to potatoes will grow mold while the other just evaporates...

Depends on the bread. Mass produced bread with a bunch of preservatives will last a long time. Higher quality artisanal bread will go moldy much faster (although within a day or two seems faster than it should be), and stale even faster than that.

thanks for the insight!

if all else fails, my insurance denied 2 of my surgeries totaling over $33k. I applied for financial aid from the hospital and surgical center. After I submitted my paperwork (bank statements, W2, that stuff) they called and said I qualified for aid and " we're going to cover 100% of your bill". Thats always an option, hospitals have grants and all sorts of programs to help

There's a lot of bacteria in the air if your bread is getting moldy that quick...it should last for 7-10 days on the counter...

I just looked that bread up- looks tasty!! Thanks :)

For baked goods, I individually wrap, freeze, thaw, and if need be, crispen in the airfryer. That bulky machine has to earn its keep, somehow. :)

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