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keepthetips t1_jd01x2y wrote

Reply to LPT request: What are some healthy ways to deal with a long term relationship ending? by zoidbergstench

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RNnoturwaitress t1_jd011k2 wrote

Reply to comment by unclosetedgoth in LPT - You do not have to commit to being a foster parent to help kids in the system by mutilatedlama

I’m glad you have good memories! My mom was a CASA for a young girl for about 10 years. Unfortunately the girl killed herself around age 20. Her mom called my mom to let her know. I felt like she was my sister sometimes - and wasn’t always very nice. I have major regrets. I think my mom was a good presence in her life, though.

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HugeToaster t1_jczzva6 wrote

Reply to comment by natnguyen in LPT - You do not have to commit to being a foster parent to help kids in the system by mutilatedlama

That's a good point. Doing respite is a good way to dip your toes and see if it's something you want to do for a long term placement. while my wife and I did foster immediately, we ended up taking a few short term placements and respite before actually taking a long term placement.

Ps.s we should be adopting in a couple months!

Good luck!

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Egotisticeggplant t1_jczxf45 wrote

Reply to LPT - You do not have to commit to being a foster parent to help kids in the system by mutilatedlama

As somebody that has been through the system and in and out of foster homes throughout most their childhood, you all have no idea (or maybe you do) how much these things help. When. I was a kid it just felt like I was being dragged through the system with no idea what was going on or why. Many times I was taken to homes without any of my own clothes. Another time due to a complaint every child was removed from the home but somehow there was a disconnect and I was in the home myself with the foster parents and my social worker was nowhere to be found. I don't know what happened, I was young, I just remember being stuck there 2-3 days longer after all the other kids were removed. And I was the one that put in the complaint and the foster parents knew it.

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_kellythomas_ t1_jczwqmb wrote

Reply to LPT - If you work a desk job, put a reminder in your calendar to follow the 20/20/20 rule by [deleted]

>Use the 20-20-20 rule. Every 20 minutes, take a 20-second break and focus your eyes on something at least 20 feet away.

https://opto.ca/eye-health-library/20-20-20-rule

I used to have an app on my work PC that popped up a reminder if it detected 20 minutes of continuous keyboard/mouse activity. I can't remember the name now but if anyone has any recommendations I would love to hear them.

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keepthetips t1_jczvl4p wrote

Reply to LPT - If you work a desk job, put a reminder in your calendar to follow the 20/20/20 rule by [deleted]

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bansawbanchee t1_jczvbkl wrote

Reply to comment by skintwo in LPT - You do not have to commit to being a foster parent to help kids in the system by mutilatedlama

But yea. Mentors are what these kids need. Time spent with someone who at least they think gives a shit. No judgment, just hanging out doing fun stuff. Out to eat.. ylu know how many don't know what the inside of chili's looks like. Or chikfila... or a movie theater. Funs pot. Shit that costs 40 bucks.

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