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tonydanzascaulk t1_jdxuodm wrote

I assume, based on your wording, that the two you already have are twins? I am in a similar situation. Twins first, and the third is younger. Mine are closer in age than yours; my twins are now 6 and the younger is 4. My experience was that the third was way more work than I was prepared for. Everyone always said oh, twins, that must be so much work, you must be exhausted, etc. The reality was the twins were ok to manage because that’s all we knew at the time. When our life got insane was when we added the third at a different developmental stage.

I don’t know that I have any great LPTs for you, except be forgiving of yourself, your partner, and your older two. Things will be hard and you will all do, say, and think things that you don’t mean. It’s ok. The laundry/cleaning/etc will get done, eventually. You will all be tired. You will cry. You will question your sanity and your ability to handle this. It’s ok. Lean on whatever support system you have in place and absolutely do not feel bad about asking for help! Show all your kids that you genuinely love them and care about them and everything else will take care of itself. Best of luck!

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kdthex01 t1_jdxsc09 wrote

So much this x 1000 million. I got caught up in the “who got the most prestigious offer” rat race during the recruiting cycle and “won”.

One of the jobs I turned down went to a friend - they invested in her and she went on to become a industry leader in our field - mostly because she had time and support to contribute to open source projects and standards orgs. Meanwhile I was maxing billable hours at the expense of my health.

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dovahkiitten16 t1_jdxs6wm wrote

I never understood the dream company thing. Dream field or dream position? Sure. But companies come and go and some will treat you better or worse than others, and at the end of the day you’ll always be expendable. You don’t owe them loyalty let alone treating one as a dream.

I remember when I decided on my program for school all my older relatives would only ask me “who I wanted to work for” and then act like I was wasting money because I didn’t have a specific company I wanted to work for.

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Stoon_Slar OP t1_jdxn74a wrote

It's the wife's side lamp. It has actually made her smile a couple times turning it off. She works in Social Services and has for many years. I'll likely change it to something else when she finds it annoying but in the mean time, it has played a tiny part in her settling down for sleep. ¯¯\(ツ)

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vendetta2115 OP t1_jdxmy95 wrote

This is more for people who share a living space. If person A runs the dishwasher and then person B opens the dishwasher a couple hours later, it may not be apparent whether the dishes are clean or dirty. Glasses in particular are difficult because I always wash out the glass before putting it in the dishwasher, so it looks “clean” but really isn’t.

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vendetta2115 OP t1_jdxmj5u wrote

Sorry but that’s gross. Why not just put them in the dishwasher? It’s better than a sink full of dirty dishes. It looks bad, smells bad, and makes more work because you have to handle the dishes twice instead of once.

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vendetta2115 OP t1_jdxm9yt wrote

I don’t understand: why do you have a full load of dirty dishes to put into the dishwasher?

I don’t think this is the burn you think it is. I slowly fill up my dishwasher as I use dishes, always keeping my kitchen sink empty.

What kind of like do YOU live?

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keepthetips t1_jdxm5ez wrote

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