For me, I just finally realized that dieting isn't a punishment when you do it right, but holding yourself accountable to only eat what your body can use without putting on weight.

Also, I told my doctor that I was trying to do better by avoiding pop and only getting a sandwich (not the meal with fries) when I do eat out. He pointed out that even just the sandwich can be 800+ calories, and that fast food isn't always "filling".

I started actually paying attention to the calories I ate and realized you can eat a tremendous amount of fruit (melons, strawberries, grapes), vegetables (zucchini, broccoli, green beans, asparagus), and lean meats (chicken, turkey, fish) in a day without going over your suggested daily calorie intake.

It's all about making better choices in what you consume.

Also, pop and condiments can get quickly add up in a day. Remember, for barbecue sauces and salad dressings, a single portion of only 2 tablespoons. You can easily scarf down 800 calories in salad dressing and not even realize it and that stuff isn't filling whatsoever.

Hire a cleaning person. Worth the money

I’ve had this problem recently. I’ve stopped eating out as much, I make myself smaller portions when preparing food at home (I try to make it healthier) and if I still feel hungry after I’ve already eaten then I’ll just drink water. I was mainly just eating out of boredom and also for the dopamine high after I started working from home and I put on a few pounds because of it

Have you tried meditation?

Yup. My gf's mom was in the hospital (she made it), and they had a rocky relationship, but it impacted my gf so much to her mom in that state.

Listen to David Foster Wallace's commencement speech to Kenyon College. You can find it online/YouTube. It helps me a lot with similar stuff in my head.

Some people struggle with a consistent caloric deficit like 1500 calories per day. If that doesn't work for you, try doing fasting.

Some people handle fasting much better and can do anywhere from 2-7 days in a row easily.

Keep in mind to avoid eating carbs/sugars and try to focus more of your diet on meat, vegetables etc.

try to make it look like you're earning your food by taking care of something that could be done before you eat

Maybe doing these tasks puts you in a meditative headspace that's hard to achieve with your SO at home? That happens to me all the time. Idk if it's my ADHD or what, but it's soooo much easier to stay focused and maintain momentum when I'm all alone and know I won't have to change gears for a while.

Cat-cow pose to relieve lower back pain. Psoas stretch to unlock tight hips.

To add to this, a recent publication of a study on this has shown that too much consumption of high, fatty, overly processed foods (i.e. junk food) can, with time, change your brain.

It trains your brain to seek out foods of this make up. This is reversible (more in the sense that you re-train your brain) though, it just takes consistency and some time.

Unless it bothers both of you just relax together. There’s always time to clean.

You could try drinking a glass of water before your meal.

Increase fiber intake, this will help to keep you more satiated for longer.

And don't forget about speed of eating. Your body takes about 20 minutes to realize it's full. Set a portion for yourself, and say you can eat more. But only after a 10-15 minute break

I would give intermittent fasting a shot.

It helps you understand when you're actually hungry vs bored imo

I have the same issue with cleaning around other people. For me, I've realized that it comes from adults in my life being hypercritical whenever I did chores as a kid. I was expected to help with cleaning from about 8 years old and my mom and grandma would yell at me for doing chores too slow or the "wrong" way even though I was still learning. Not much I can do about it now except raising my own children differently, but being aware of the reason for this hang-up and recognizing that it's irrational definitely helps me.

My dad died in 2016 and I still cry about it every so often. You just have to give some space and let those just cry it out. It literally feels like it all happened just last year.

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Yes. My father's death was as tragic as our relationship. We had time at the end to generally forgive each other, but my god the things I should have said and didn't. Cried in my boyfriend's arms this morning. It was 14 mos ago that he passed.

Why?

A simple question to ask yourself.

Why does someone talking slowly bothering you? Why does hearing the same story need to be an important factor in your mind? Why are you giving someone chewing their food loudly enough attention to let it wind you up.

I use discord since it’s always open on my computer and easy to access on my phone.

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Drink a pint of water before eating. That should fill you up a bit

Get comfortable with feeling hungry. It doesn't hurt.

Try to remember a little gratitude about how fortunate you are to be quick and able to do tasks quickly. Not everyone is as lucky.

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