there are any number of reasons for not eating right and even more solutions. here is what has been working for me.

i used to eat out all the time for convenience. cooking a single meal for a single person didn’t make sense when it costs about the same to eat out. however cooking 4 or 5 meals at once changes everything. try developing dishes that are easy to make, store and re-heat.

A bunch of things can help.

Reduce the shit that amps you up all the time or makes you irritable. Coffee. Sugar. Nicotine/drugs. Lack of exercise. Lack of personal time or focus or meditation or whatever. Deal with the stressors outside of the person. Because that's stuff you'll want to take out on others and dislike them for little things that ultimately don't matter. Because really, so what if someone talks slow or is slow. You get your shit done, you don't have to live in comparisons, and that slow talker isn't taking away some precious seconds that you're losing doing other things. Those seconds in that context are almost never that essential.

The other part is just taking a moment to stop making things about how you feel or how you feel wronged or afflicted or that it's an affront to you. They're allowed to have their stories and their existence and they're not to be controlled to fit your speed of things. Sometimes you want to just consume shit fast because your brain moves fast or whatever. But people aren't TikTok. They're people. You can't just swipe them away. I mean, you can. But what a lonely and unappreciative life. Computers work fast. People comparatively never will. And imagine people rushing you when you're sharing things that are meaningful. "Eugene, I'm happy to be marrying you today. From the moment I first laid eyes on you on our first date in..." "Ugh, get to the point. Come on, pick it up." Yeah, that's a quick way to get people to shut down and never want to share with you.

Another part is having some patience and grace and understanding for the things that make other people different from you. Some people learn slower, process slower, get confused. You just don't know their stories. Maybe they lack some self awareness. You don't know the context of people. You might feel powerful being like, "I talk fast and they don't. Ugh, these slow people just can't keep up with me." Well here's some stuff to make you feel like shit. What if they're neurodivergent or mentally handicapped or had a stroke or a developmental disability or are dealing with grief and trauma at home and are overwhelmed easily. Now you feel like a complete piece of shit for thinking these things, right? Think about how that would look to others. Now know that that doesn't matter. That's all the ego being fed and the ego will never be satisfied if that's all you feed. But what's important to understand is that you don't know people.

What if you think you're so awesome compared to them because they can't keep up with you. And it turns out they're musical geniuses or a great parent or an exceptional athlete or volunteer with those in need. It's just their mental resources for this one thing you don't like are being expended elsewhere in something that makes them brilliant.

Sometimes it's that you're only focusing on a small part of people's humanity. They exist in a totality. And that's why it's important to have a patience for a lot of people. Because there's more to people than just what you see that frustrates you or not, and you can start to develop an appreciation for people and what they bring to the world as a whole rather than just seeing them as a function to your story or to fixate on the small parts.

Also, it's okay to feel how you feel. If you're irritated, you're irritated. What's not cool is being a dick about it. But it's okay to feel these things. You can reflect on why. You can even choose how to let things hit you. Maybe you make a choice to be amused and to reframe it that way. Maybe it's a fun game when you hear the story point repeated twice. Maybe it's something that's endearing that they're slow or deliberate. Maybe you just accept that some people do things slow and others quick.

I'll say this of workplace optics. I used to track my employees productivity every day. And the people I saw at their desks the least were the ones who did the most work. The one guy who looked like a snail was just so consistent and focused that he burned through his work more than everyone else. So yeah, it doesn't matter what I saw. If I went off that, I know it'd be my ego projecting rather than hearing people for who they are.

Anyway, hit some mindfulness, hit some meditation. Practice grace and empathy and patience. Shit's not really that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things and I say that not to diminish or dismiss, but to encourage you to see that as a freedom to let things go that don't matter and not to sweat the stuff that's small

I didn't realize how long eating could take until I began to truly chew my food.

So that's emotional. I also didn't know that a year ago, but I can tell you I'm down over 40 lbs, the happiest I've ever been, and I still eat things I love. Major props to my therapist and swimming lengths

so spend time togather when they are home, clean when they work.

I'm not seeing a problem unless your SO is a seasonal worker.

I’ve been struggling with weight for about 10 years. When I was a teen I was bone thin. For the last year I’ve tried a few different things and it never really works for me. Finally I committed to a harsh intermittent fasting routine where I don’t eat until at least 6pm. I’ve lost 12 lbs in 2 weeks. At first I was chowing down for dinner, but I’ve noticed I’m getting full a lot faster and easier as I guess my stomach is shrinking.

When I am inactive, I eat anything around me. I gained about 60 lbs since COVID because I was sitting at home bored.

Once I get moving, you’d think I would want to eat more. It’s actually quite the opposite. I eat WAY less once I start to walk, jog, bike, lift weights, or do any movement.

I would highly encourage you to start “working out” however you want without worrying about what you’re eating. Once you have consistently been moving for 2-3 weeks, the motivation and self-control will come.

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ACV will also destroy the enamel in your teeth. Be cautious.

Here’s things that have been helpful to me:

Use small dishes. After you clear the little plate, if you don’t feel “full” yet, stand up and drink some water. If you’re still hungry after a few minutes, then go ahead and take a little more food.

Don’t have distractions (TV, phone) in front of you while you eat.

Have plenty of better-for-you and easy to grab or prepare options available. That includes bringing snacks with you when you are out-and-about. An apple and a nut bar do way more to hold me over until I get home than the burger or nuggets I’d be likely to pick up if I get hangry while running errands.

Eat when you are hungry. Even if “dinner is in an hour.” Have something healthier now before your level of hunger makes it harder to make good decisions about what and how much you eat.

Have salads. Eat a large portion of salad or other vegetable at the beginning of your meal to fill up with fiber.

Don’t be afraid of saving or trashing “the last little bit” of whatever is on your plate.

Instead of focusing on keeping “bad” foods out of your body, move your attention to putting “good foods” in. Most Americans do not get enough fiber. Start there: vegetables, beans and lentils, whole grains

For us data fanatics, any good studies related to this?

close your mouth?

Understand that you aren’t the main character in life. It’s that simple. Time doesn’t bend to your will. I bet you drive to closely to the cars in front of you too right?

Just relax. There’s no end to the race of life other than death. So slow down and breathe.

Also think of all the great advice you’ve missed being impatient.

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Both items can help increase insulation in unexpected cold-snaps. Also luxury bedding items can serve dual purpose on camping trips that involve... stimulation.

Get on a GLP1 agonist.

eat smaller portions more often. this way you will never be hungry, your sugar level will be more stable, your mood and sleep will be better, and also as a bonus you will learn to differ hunger from thirst, which tons of people are unable to.

Biggest thing I've learned is that you can't hold anyone else to your own standards because nobody is ever going to live up to them. It is an exercise in maximum frustration. Just worry about your own stuff and relax.

My mom told me a good anecdote that helps with patience: a person on the road is driving like an asshole, cuts you off. You get them to pull over and go up to give them a piece of your mind when you see a baby in the back screaming its head off and you can clearly see the parent is tired and out of patience. The parent couldn't take it out on the baby and didn't have time to pull over, so took their frustration out on the road.

I always ask myself "what's an understandable reason for that person's behavior?"

Holup. Gotta stop you on the last one. I know I'm not the only one who has a visceral, uncontrollable reaction to the sound of mouth parts working food loudly. It's not something I choose to acknowledge, it's that I literally cannot NOT acknowledge it when it's happening. Its a super shitty thing to experience.

Using the word emotional in this context just seems so wrong. Emotion is an abstract concept and isn't really complete enough to describe the problem. "The problem is related to your feelings" vs "It's a psychological or mental health issue."

Where are you camping that you would get Hypothermia without an inflatable mattress? Inflatable mattress is a luxury item us old people use before finally graduating to a camper. Did you mean sleeping bags?

Also, it really drove home the idea of how bad overeating can be when my doctor pointed out that it only takes a couple of weeks of eating an extra 150 calories a day to put on a full pound of weight. That's like 15-20 lbs a year. And that it takes an hour of running to burn off the 150 calories. Which is more effort? Running for an hour every single day? Or avoiding the excess calories?

Breaking a bad habit can be challenging, but it is possible with the right strategies and mindset. Here are some tips that can help you stop overeating and regain control over your eating habits:

1. Identify the triggers: Try to identify what triggers your overeating. Is it stress, boredom, or emotions? Once you know your triggers, you can develop strategies to cope with them without turning to food.

2. Practice mindful eating: Mindful eating means paying attention to what you're eating, savoring each bite, and tuning in to your body's signals of fullness. This can help you avoid mindlessly consuming food and stop when you're satisfied.

3. Plan your meals: Planning your meals in advance can help you avoid impulsive eating decisions. Try to plan healthy, balanced meals that include protein, complex carbohydrates, and healthy fats to keep you feeling full and satisfied.

4. Use smaller plates and portions: Using smaller plates and portions can help you reduce your overall calorie intake without feeling deprived.

5. Find alternatives to food: Find other ways to cope with stress or emotions that don't involve food. You could try taking a walk, practicing yoga, or talking to a friend.

6. Seek support: Surround yourself with supportive friends or family members who can encourage you and keep you accountable. You could also consider working with a registered dietitian or therapist who specializes in eating disorders.

Remember, changing your eating habits takes time and effort. Be patient and kind to yourself as you work towards your goals. With consistency and determination, you can regain control over your life and establish healthy eating habits.

Sunflower seeds!

They’re super awkward to eat, super tasty and low in calories