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dandelionbaaby OP t1_je2mrle wrote

Reply to comment by Pokinator in LPT request cleaning while my partner is home by dandelionbaaby

The only issue my partner has expressed is wishing I’d throw his work clothes in the wash more often, instead of his every day lounging clothes lol. That’s easily resolved by him reminding me though! All the essential tasks are done always, we never have NO clean dishes, clothes, towels, etc. I would say my anxiety comes mostly from when he is home on weekends, or has extra days off work and my usual get it all done while he’s at work routine gets messed with! It’s almost like I get stage fright cleaning in front of people, or my cleaning style just doesn’t mesh well with other body’s in the house.. I know what works BEST for me, I’m definitely hoping I can get some tips to find what works just okay for me in terms of cleaning if there’s people home

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Thaaaaaaa t1_je2l8ux wrote

Reply to comment by dandelionbaaby in LPT request cleaning while my partner is home by dandelionbaaby

I'm a father of two, 9yo and 6yo. My s/o and I both have this problem, and from what we've experienced, and keep in mind, just our experience, we just want to hang out with each other. Working all day, taking care of the kids all day+all the housework, it's lame. And when I get home from work, we just want to lay up and watch some shows, make sure kids are fed, homeworks done etc... Then re-gear to do it all again tomorrow. Parenting, whether you stay at home or be the breadwinner, is pretty tireless. However you can work out a routine, divide labor, and find your balance is going to be what it's going to be.

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purpleblackgreen t1_je2k74f wrote

Reply to comment by SmilingForStrangers in LPT: Do not fall for the whole pursue "working for your dream company" idea. You will be so much better off if you have a wonderful, respectful, considerate boss at some normal business who actually values and respects you/your work, and allows you to become successful and proficient in your field. by Dismal_Body_2731

Fellow background checker here. Sounds like an interesting company. DM more info?

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somuchstrange t1_je2ig2t wrote

Reply to LPT: How to support someone grieving: the process is not linear and often takes longer than people think (even, and sometimes especially, when the relationship with the deceased was painful or estranged). A year may seem like a long time since a death, but to the grieving, it can feel very recent. by survivalothefittest

I had to get used to each person including parents and grandparents not being around for each holiday. It felt different for each person because of their relationship to holidays, but nonetheless had to get used to not including cards (or seeing them, buying gifts, spending time w/them, etc) and remembering they weren't a part of any holiday anymore. After the first year the remembering was easier, but the deceased are always thought of.

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DrDisastor t1_je2ian9 wrote

Reply to LPT Request: How to stop over eating and have more control over my diet? by Vq-Blink

Meal prep and calorie counting. Make all your food, snacks included, ahead of time. Think about the time and money you saved already when tempted to cheat. Build in cheat MEALS on OCCASION, not entire days and not too often. Allow yourself some flexibility to social stuff but make better choices if you deviate from the prepped food.

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amboomernotkaren t1_je2i1ww wrote

Reply to LPT: How to support someone grieving: the process is not linear and often takes longer than people think (even, and sometimes especially, when the relationship with the deceased was painful or estranged). A year may seem like a long time since a death, but to the grieving, it can feel very recent. by survivalothefittest

My mom had been dead since 2010. I’m crying just typing those words. My close friend lost her 32 year old son in 2021, her mom and brother last November and her husband three weeks ago. I don’t know how she can cope. Her son had a stroke at 33. He was a really great young man.

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NateCow t1_je2f71i wrote

Reply to comment by sarahjd82 in LPT: How to support someone grieving: the process is not linear and often takes longer than people think (even, and sometimes especially, when the relationship with the deceased was painful or estranged). A year may seem like a long time since a death, but to the grieving, it can feel very recent. by survivalothefittest

As soon as I read "The best explanation for grief," I figured you were going to go into the ball in the box. Spot fucking on. I lost one of my best friends and then my girlfriend with 16 months of each other, both while I was living across the country for work. That metaphor really helped me through the random waves of grief.

A friend of mine lost his wife (of just under 3 years) last year. The thing I told him is that it doesn't get "easier." You just get used to it. You're suddenly thrust into a new phase of life without that person, and you'll eventually grow accustomed to this new reality.

EDIT: Rephrasing.

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HumpieDouglas t1_je2dmts wrote

Reply to LPT: How to support someone grieving: the process is not linear and often takes longer than people think (even, and sometimes especially, when the relationship with the deceased was painful or estranged). A year may seem like a long time since a death, but to the grieving, it can feel very recent. by survivalothefittest

It's been almost 10 years since my wife died and I still have days where it seems like it just happened.

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sarahjd82 t1_je2ddfo wrote

Reply to LPT: How to support someone grieving: the process is not linear and often takes longer than people think (even, and sometimes especially, when the relationship with the deceased was painful or estranged). A year may seem like a long time since a death, but to the grieving, it can feel very recent. by survivalothefittest

The best explanation for grief I've ever seen was the ball in a box metaphor. Basically, when you lose someone it's like you've been given a box with a button on one of the walls. In that box is a grief ball. At first the ball almost fills the entire box, so it constantly pushes the button. With time the ball shrinks but it's still huts the button from time to time, often unexpectedly.

Grief is unpredictable and hard.

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