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Do what my wife did: Exploit my mother's teachings about "cleaning out my own mess".
It really saves a lot of time and effort.

I lost my dad a year and a half ago. We were close and it was heartwrenching. This past weekend my husband and i were trying to do a home project on a subject that was my dad's profession. It was going wrong and we couldnt figure out why. I had a mini breakdown. I missed him so much in that moment because he would have come over, took 2 seconds and told us what was wrong. Weird moments like that pop up and the little things because huge losses.

Thank you for this. My mum and I had a very poor relationship, the last decade and a half. She died a week and a half ago. For some reason I have a feeling I'm not really going to be able to grieve her death for another year and a half.

Drink lots of water. After a couple of weeks of doing this, you no longer have desire to eat all the nasty stuff.

If you like to eat a ton of food, eat a bucket of vegetables three times a day with protein; chicken or fish.

Make good choices easy and bad choices hard.

Always keep ready to eat fresh veggies on hand, have healthy meals prepped and frozen to grab and go...

Then don't keep junk food in your house and remove all the apps from your phone and save credit cards from your computer.

Limit the number of times you have to say "no" to unhealthy foods, even if you resist the package of cookies in the cupboard 3 times a day your brain is doing the math that you didn't eat 3 cookies and therefore thinks you can totally have a coke with dinner...

Calorie tracking is a whole different post but it is an absolutely eye opening process when you start.

I have a similar problem when I'm in a really good mood. The taste of food just fuels it and it feels like every bite is an emotional boost. This is just what works for me.

My favorite way to combat this is green grapes. They're small and strongly flavored so it slows me way down. And drinking water during. If you feel like the urge is too much, filling up on mostly water is great bc it digests quickly but still gives you a full feeling. The fruit is for the flavor boost that I crave so much.

Also always having a drink with me while I'm at home at night. Having something to sip on that has flavor is good. Usually water with MIO or tea.

Maybe this would help you too.

There’s alot of great advice here, especially around empathy and therapy. I would also say try to check in with yourself when you get stuck on frustration over the exterior; for instance, as some said nicotine addiction can be a cause, anger can also be caused by physical (hunger) or mental cues (anxiety/overthinking over “wasted time” etc.). Also, alot of times anger or frustration stems from an idealistic view on life; like getting annoying at traffic when you know it’s normal for traffic during the rush hour etc

I started using a calorie counter app a few months ago, and was really surprised at the number of calories I was consuming just by eating snacks! Since then I have started letting myself get good and hungry at least once a day, and eating less in the snack food category. I have lost 27 lbs since September 1st!

If you try using a calorie counting app even before you eat, you may be able to stop yourself from eating as much. It has helped me!

Keep reading suggestions and looking for answers. I hope you find something that works for you.

Use measuring cups to serve yourself. Immediately pack away extra food into the fridge. Eat with chopsticks or kid sized utensils. Make sure you drink 8oz of liquid before you meal or during your measured meal. Make 2/3 of your meal vegetables. Rebalance your meal cycles. Maybe you need 5 smaller meals instead of 3 larger.

Make sure the only easy-to-snack foods are high fiber or vegetable/fruits. Chug a glass of water every time you think about snacks and find a 5 minute mind-occupying activity.

After doing all these things, I still eat too much.

Oh I love this anecdote

I’d go even broader and say don’t worry about finding a dream job. Find something you can make a nice living at and then learn to like it or adjust employers, bosses as you go.

I found a career that is lucrative but I didn’t love it at first. In fact I really didn’t like it. I stuck with it and learned to like it. Now I truly love my job. Along the way I’ve never struggled financially like I would have had I “followed my dreams”.

Jobs often start out hard and stressful but as you develop expertise you earn respect and and you enjoy your time at work. I’d nearly do my job for free now.

This one is tough and might take experimenting with several techniques shared here. The most important thing is to keep trying until you find a system that works for you. I happen to enjoy eating out myself and can occasionally fall into this habit. So here's my approach.

I keep a small baggie of nuts like n my pocket or backpack. There are tons of varieties and flavorings to choose from. A handful is good at satiating your hunger and meets the boredom piece. It's like reaching for gum instead of a cigarette.

Second, when I fall into the habit of eating out I start using cash if I can. If I make it through the day without buying anything I put 15 bucks in a clear jar on my dresser. At the end of the month I treat myself to something I want from one of my hobbies.

More than anything though you have to work on changing your body chemistry. Eating right at home is essential to this. Stock up on food that is as close to it's natural state as you can. The first month of avoiding sugar and fatty fried foods is awful. Your body is litterly addicted to this stuff through millions of years of evolution. You have to have a meal plan, including making a list before you go shopping and sticking to it.

If you are out and need to eat think about where you're going. Obviously avoid corporate death burgers and fried food. Salads with grilled chicken are your friend. Leafy greens are highly filling and filled with good micro nutrients that will help you move on from the fat and sugar addictions.

Try to change your perception of food. It can be a social, joyful thing, but if you look at it as a fueling cycle it changes what food's purpose is. Pick up an active hobby that requires solid eating habits to fuel.

Finally, if you aren't perfect, don't worry about it. Just note it and move on with the next meal. Do not fall into a place of self loathing if you cheat a bit.

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Currently in my dream company and it’s an absolute nightmare.

Every fat person I know eats their emotions. And every skinny person I know loses their appetite when stressed. So I suspect that weight in either direction is a stress response.

Salads!

They will actually change your habits.

Just as many salads as you can eat.

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Batch cooking can make cooking easier. Freeze some of the portions for later so you aren’t eating the same thing all week.

Maybe replace some of your eating out with healthier food delivery services.

When you do eat out, only eat half of your meal. Save the other half for the next day.

When you feel hungry, drink water instead.

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Try eating only one meal a day

Make a routine or schedule time to self organize.

In the morning I go for a walk and mentally plan my day until lunch. At lunch I plan my afternoon. At dinner I plan my evening.

Before I finish work I make a todo list for the next day so I know what I need to work on when I start work.

Take notes and write everything down.

Workout. No one can take that away from you, the progress and overall good feeling of exhaustion should sap away the extra aggression. Also weed.

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