Recent comments in /f/LifeProTips

philosophunc t1_je4e5cj wrote

Reply to comment by rave98 in LPT: Let your boss/supervisor/coordinator talk and correct him in private by r3au

Yup. A good boss acknowledges they're not infallible or the brightest on every possible subject. The suggested mentality is common in Japanese workplaces. And it's detrimental. I respect a boss who acknowledges their limitations, adopts constant growth and improvement and knows how to utilize their staffs strengths. Anyone getting pissy about being corrected is a petty shit boss and they should know they're not smarter, nobody thinks they're smarter and everyone can see through the facade. These people don't think employees talk about the boss when the boss isn't around?

7

keepthetips t1_je4dhde wrote

Reply to LPT: Let your boss/supervisor/coordinator talk and correct him in private by r3au

Hello and welcome to r/LifeProTips!

Please help us decide if this post is a good fit for the subreddit by up or downvoting this comment.

If you think that this is great advice to improve your life, please upvote. If you think this doesn't help you in any way, please downvote. If you don't care, leave it for the others to decide.

1

dubdoll OP t1_je4cezs wrote

Reply to comment by Uranus_Hz in LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll

Absolutely! My eldest is 5, and that’s when she really decided she didn’t want kids lol she saw how hard of a job it is, even though it is rewarding.

While I would love my kids to have cousins I would never, ever ask her if she now wants kids and I absolutely understand why she doesn’t want children.

14

Uranus_Hz t1_je4bksj wrote

Reply to LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll

Having raised several (awesome) kids, I can say that I totally understand not wanting to.

It’s a TON of work, financial drain, emotional drain, relationship strain, etc, for a couple decades.

I’m glad I have a bunch of cool kids (adults) to hang out with. But I’m also a little sad I didn’t get to travel more, or experience more museums/shows/beaches/etc.

It’s a trade-off. I don’t regret my choice, and I understand the child free appeal, but it’s nobody’s fucking business either way.

31

HelenEk7 t1_je4b133 wrote

Reply to LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll

I dont mention possible children at all when talking to people that dont have any. Not when they are single, not when they are married, not when they look pregnant, not even when knowing they are trying to have a baby. If they want to talk about it, they will bring it up. If not, its a subject better to avoid.

525

Gombreezy t1_je4aq20 wrote

Reply to LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll

Thank you!

Wife and I are, always been, and always will be childfree. How hard is it to just say okay when someone says they don't want kids. It's really irritating when someone says "oh you'll change your mind, or there's still time, or it'll be different when it's yours, or you never know". Yes, I do know, I've never wanted to or even thought being a parent would be cool, enjoyable, or something I want.

ALSO, maybe they haven't had a kid or don't want kids because they actually can't have them, and the comments about how they can change their mind could be really hurtful.

168