Build a life together?! See you DO want children! /s

I admire people who are able to do that, I'm just not one of them. I worry a lot about small things, nothing does ever not matter. I think about things no one probably ever thinks of, and I always await the worst outcome possible. I just do not have the right mindset, I believe.

I actually do, but probably not often enough, I rarely find the time. A lame excuse, I know...

I try to escape into a story, a memory or thought that made me happy. Helps for a bit, but not longlasting so far. Thank you very much for your words!

I this this is right. The studies that show that antibiotic ointment actually slows healing were the main point the urgent care folks made. Plus thorough washing is usually sufficient.

Thank you for your thoughts, I appreciate it very much and will try to create new paths! It is not dark thoughts, just things that are not in my control... how high will a certain bill be, will they overcharge me, what can I do against that, should I maybe consider talking to a lawyer.. I even have discussions in my mind that are not likely to ever happen. It's exhausting. Online therapy is also not a thing in my country, therapy around here is for people with severe mental health issues like depression or severe anxiety, which I have in a very mild form, but I consider myself mostly okay. Talking to someone would be great, though.

I am familiar with those techniques, but can't really keep them up for longer than a few minutes. But I will work on it. Thank you!

When I don't have energy, I just write, but I've always loved writing stories and journaling since I was little. Pen and paper is easy for me to grab and take with me. I word vomit all over my notebook and writing helps slow down my throughts too. I also just talk to myself. I think sometimes we spend too much time listening to our minds, but not enough time actually talking to ourselves. Be your own best friend :)

Feels good to know that I am not the only person who is going through this, thank you for sharing your experience kind stranger.

But unprocessed sugar

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Have you tried knitting or crochet?

It’s small, portable and as engaging or monotonous as you need it to be. If you use public transport to commute instead of spending time on social media you can knit/crochet it has so many benefits. you’re disengaging from a screen/computer (if that’s what you do for work/reduces chances of you checking work emails etc), the repetitive motion is soothing and you have something physical to show for the time on the commute.

You don’t even need to make “things” some people make clothes/hats/socks and gift or wear them. Some people just enjoy the process and can stitch up an entire ball of yarn, unwind it back into a ball and just start again.

Thank you for this.

We happily childfree people don’t ask people who want to have children “are you sure?” and we sure as hell don’t ask people with children “did you change your mind?” or even more mean, whilst a child is acting up, “do you still like having kids now?” or “have you changed your mind now?”.

The decision to have or not to have children is deeply personal and is no one’s business. Let people be who they are.

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That’s pretty much the majority of posts in this sub now. “I experienced something I didn’t like, so now I’m going to tell people not to do the thing I didn’t like and pretend it’s a life pro tip.”

My theory is that so many people didn’t want kids either, but society made them believe they had to or else they were selfish for wanting a life dedicated only to themselves instead of kids. And now when they see people making the choice they wish they had made, they get upset that they were “forced” to take a family role to not upset the societal status quo that they didn’t necessarily want and are now a bit jealous to see the life they could have been having. I say “forced” not because someone directly forced them to get married and have kids, but the societal pressure to make a good family and a good Christian home always has kids.

My mom would always hit me with the usual “oh, I didn’t want kids when I was your age either, but you’ll change your mind.” whenever I said I never wanted kids. My mom used to be outgoing, loved playing sports, going motorcycle riding, having out with her best friend (her husband) and other college friends. Then she had kids and “had to sell the motorcycle, played way less sports and didn’t get to hang out with friends as often because she was taking care of her kids full time at home while my dad was going to school full time still to be a medical doctor.

Personally, her parenting skills were pretty gross, very rough for me at least being the youngest of her kids. But I have always had the impression that she would have been such a happier person if she hadn’t traded in her life for what society told her she had to do to be a good wife and person.

I would much rather my mother had not had me at all because she seemed to resent motherhood when presented with the idea that others didn’t have to choose it based on other people’s perception.

I just joined an axe throwing league for this reason. Gets me out of the house for a few hours one night a week and I get to kill wood boards. I ended up meeting some really nice people. Going to start a new season soon and I am looking forward too it.

Lol, If they are my friend I would ask them anything I feel comfortable asking them.

Your friend should be comfortable enough to tell their friends how they feel.

Her friends should then respect the request.

If this doesn't happen then there is a boundary issue and I would question if they were actually my friends.

Imo shitty life pro tip.

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Eh. If it's your friend I think it's fair game to ask. I've had tons of people in my life say they don't want kids and then once they've changed partners, they wanted kids.

I honestly don't think it should be an issue to ask in general if people want kids either. Humans have only made it this far because of our intelligence, curiosity, and reproduction. It's a simple yes or no question.

I think prying or attempting to change the person's mind is the issue. If someone says the don't want kids, that should be the end of it.

Keep eating your nothing but vegetables and being weak, slow, sick, and frail.

Not the person who commented, but my guess would be the following:

1. Especially if the wound is new, bacteria have not had a chance to spread/multiply. Washing it removes majority of them.
2. We should be careful about using antibiotics all over the place. Last time we found a new antibiotic was in early 2000s (2001 if i remember correctly). Superbugs are out there and by using antibiotics where we don’t need them, we create more of them.
3. (This one is more of a personal opinion). Antibiotics are really not needed, especially for smaller wounds. I have not used any of them except hydrogen peroxide when i was smaller (and research shows it’s actually counter productive to the wound healing). Human bodies survived for a long time without access to those and it’s not like wounds were rare in the past. I’m also not saying not to use them in any scenario, but rather just when needed and warranted.

I checked. They didn't come close to beating my progressive with 10 year loyalty, home and auto bundle, and good driver discounts.

Neither did USAA.

Learning a sport? Cooking is an art handle It with finesse and never regret your fuck ups unless you burn your place down 💯 👌

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