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quypro_daica t1_je5wz3b wrote

Reply to comment by aLittleQueer in LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll

to be fair, marriage is not matter whether you want to have kids together or build a life together. It is just a waste of money and putting unnecessary pressure on the couple. I have been single for all my life (27), and even though I wish to have a Life time partner, I feel stressed whenever thinking about getting marriage

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b_lett t1_je5wlo7 wrote

Reply to comment by Gombreezy in LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll

Maternal mortality/morbidity is a serious issue that most don't consider. We're constantly hit with depictions of childbirths where nothing goes wrong in tv/shows/books, etc. The reality, is that there are a lot of cases where things go wrong, or where women know up front they have conditions where even trying to carry a baby full term could pose a risk to their life.

So this subject matter could be a sensitive point for medical reasons, not even just a financial or social pressure reason.

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16M4 t1_je5vn7a wrote

Reply to comment by Gombreezy in LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll

Wife and I used to get comments like this all the time. We’re both only children and never had the desire to have kids. Got tired of hearing the comments and one time someone asked why we didn’t (and I had been thinking about putting it this way for a while just to see what would happen) I just blurted out “..cause we fucking hate kids.” Let me tell you how quick that conversation ended. No like malice towards the person asking, just a “I don’t even like other people’s kids, why would I want my own”. Funny thing was, the people asking laughed, said “fair enough” and that was that. Try it sometime, it’s hilarious because most people are expecting some sort of well it wasn’t the right time, or something about finances, etc. The DO NOT expect that answer.

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customerservis t1_je5v665 wrote

Reply to LPT: A lot of people don’t know this but if you have a Costco membership, they offer car insurance that has unbeatable prices. by ninaunst

In Michigan I have not been able to find another auto insurer that could beat our rates through the costco insurance. I’ve compared rates once a year every year and no one has come close. But, he have both auto and home insured together and we haven’t been too happy with the ho insurance. Had hail damage to our roof last summer and the ho insurance has an extremely high hail deductible. It wasn’t even worth filing a claim.

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sezit t1_je5tr7q wrote

Reply to LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll

I think it's good to let these people get a clear, concise response that is the emotional equivalent to them touching a hot stove. Protecting them from embarrassment never teaches them to stop this antisocial behavior - not just with you, but with other people. We need to make this prying just as socially taboo as casual questions about your sex life.

There are quick responses that hopefully train them - through embarrassment - not to pry, like:

  • "The answer to that question is immensely painful for me. Please never bring it up again."

  • "Wow. Why would you think such a private issue is your concern?"

  • "That's off limits. Let's change the subject: what are you planting in the garden this year?"

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IncomprehensibleGoat t1_je5td4q wrote

Reply to comment by travelcasket in LPT Request: How do I stop my thought carousel? by travelcasket

Depending what languages you speak, you may be able to access services from another country. There are many organisations and therapists in the UK for example - assuming youre able to afford the session fee, this could be an option! One final thought (and i do understand the examples you give from my own experience) - if you suffer what may be, then what is, and then what was, you have suffered the same event 3 times. Prepare, of course, where something is in your circle of control, or your circle of influence. But if its not, then maybe reminding yourself that worrying wont affect it could help. Good luck, and you're not alone in experiencing these things!

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Jake_the3rd t1_je5swtc wrote

Reply to comment by i_cant_have_dairy in LPT: If you want someone’s attention and they seem to be ignoring you, getting reasonably close to them and whispering is much more effective for getting them to pay attention to you than yelling. It gently grabs their attention and their curiosity. by [deleted]

well it would def depend onhow well you know the person. if theyre a good friend, sure why not iguess. some1 you hardly know? not a good idea

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keepthetips t1_je5sh56 wrote

Reply to LPT: If you want someone’s attention and they seem to be ignoring you, getting reasonably close to them and whispering is much more effective for getting them to pay attention to you than yelling. It gently grabs their attention and their curiosity. by [deleted]

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decrementsf t1_je5s73t wrote

Reply to LPT; Wash Your Ziplocks, Save Money and Reduce Plastic Use by 0-Give-a-fucks

If this is a system it's worthwhile to upgrade over time to non-plastic alternatives. Over the course of a lifetime it's good for metabolic health to reduce interactions with plastics. I like glass. It's an impossible task to avoid. We're all in this together. But we can mitigate the damage done a bit in ways that benefit your children's and grandchildren's epigenetics.

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