It's more than just on the roads in Philly.

Caregiving is no joke. Kudos to you for the years of hard work you’ve put in. I haven’t done it personally but have encountered many caregivers in my line of work. It’s understandable to doubt that estate recovery happens in PA. The state only looks at transfers of assets (like houses) for a period of 5 years prior to applying to Medicaid, so many people avoid the problem entirely by transferring property early. And the enforcement of estate recovery varies. I noticed the state being more aggressive with estate recovery in the past few years though, so I personally wouldn’t take the chance. Another side note - it is way easier for a living person to transfer a house than it is to go through probate after the person passes away to gain ownership. That is why I would work on this ASAP.

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I don’t want to discourage anyone from reaching out to get help, but at the same time if it’s not spoken about, the ppl in charge might think it’s working well. All I can speak of is my experience, and my experience hasn’t been a good one. Calling made me feel worse.

Ultimately, what helped me through my tough time was constantly telling myself it’s mind over matter, even if that wasn’t the full truth. I hope everyone can get the help they need❤️

I did the app over and over the night before until I was consistently getting 90s and then passed the permit test in under a minute at the dmv. The questions are pretty much the same from the app to the test as long as you have the right app.

Every store in the county outside of Lancaster City has buggy parking. We are Amish Country.

Well nobody around southeastern PA knows the rules anyway, so if you're from that area don't worry about it. Since moving here, I consider it lucky if the guy in front of me understands that green lights mean go. All jokes aside, the driving rules are easy.

Just for fucks sake please learn how right of way works and stick to it. There is so much idiocy that all starts with some moron who thinks they're being nice or smart by letting someone go. Stick to the rules and eventually you will learn when it is optimal and appropriate to try to do that stuff

No. Probably doesn’t know how to use the three sea shells

This if fact and what I also experienced growing up.

When you get your car on a hot pan, the road salts will help the Maillard reaction develop a rich umami and flavorful browning on your undercarriage.

I am not. Have you met Squirrels?

Chiming in to second this. There may be options available to you short of "give up the house to the state, but you're in crisis mode so you need to talk to an estate/elder care attorney now.

Thank you, a lot of this has been very informative.

And to respond to some of the points: He is and has been on medicaid (and medicare) for a sizable amount of time, it's just now that we're exploring care management sorts of things.

I have certainly lived with him for the quoted period (several times over); I put off/abandoned plans to move out to go to school...10 years ago now for medical/mental well being reasons for my mother (primarily the latter) and never managed to "leave escape the nest" as it were. Not even taking into account cases where he had come down with flu/pneumonia or otherwise, I've been practically speaking a full time caretaker for him since covid hit, triply so since my mother passed in Dec 2020, honestly to what is very likely an unhealthy degree. House duties, cooking, grocery shopping, medical appointment attendance as well as scheduling/handling most affairs in that sort of realm.

Asset wise, sans the house, which to be frank isn't even in the best shape itself, and the quite dubious condition vehicle I/He inherited when my mother passed, there's not much of anything; At most a small balance carried month to month after expenses are dealt with from his monthly social security payment.

He seems very suspicious/incredulous that this (the asset recovery thing) is actually a thing due to various friends or acquaintances of his that have done similar things as either the giver or the givee.

I'm not wrong either. The guy who yelled at me was wrong.

They’ve started spraying brine before the storms hit, and then salting with rock afterward. Might not be worse, but we’re certainly not shy about using it.

Who would do this to this poor creature

Leave it on. It adds to the seasoning.

First time in pa in winter, huh?

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Amish are the lowest life form on the planet. Abuse anything that isn’t a human male.

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I took the test back in 07 and passed first try. Many of the questions were stupid easy. Stuff like “what do you do at a stop sign?”. A few questions may try and trip you up like all tests. For example, “who has the right of way at a green traffic light (answer: Almost anyone going straight. Folks turning from the left have to yield to oncoming traffic. Folks turning right on red can do so unless otherwise stated but yield to oncoming traffic.). That is the extent of questions that call for actual thinking, if I remember. The test might be more challenging now, but I taught my girlfriend how to drive 2 years ago and based off the driving test (which hasn’t changed), I’m willing to bet the permit test is still easy.

Study all the chapters and you’ll be fine. Good luck! Use the aforementioned apps as well.

I'd see them also up at fort drum new york aka Watertown ny

Good people who have a higher than average incidence of incest and sexual assault? Good people who run puppy mills, breed dogs into the ground and then let them go roam free to get hit by cars when they're done breeding them? Good people who destroy their road horses' legs and dump them at new holland for a slaughter broker the second they can't manage the miles as easily? Good people who ignore fishing and hunting regulations, and regulations about not burning toxic trash?

Not really. It's very, very rare. Sometimes the "English" will get a former plow horse as a pasture ornament/steady eddy type for kids/visitors to trail ride. And sometimes regular/non Amish farriers don't want to work with the big drafts who aren't as good about keeping their hooves up for farrier work so in those cases I suppose someone might use an Amish farrier with stocks. And I suppose some people who like driving horses might get harnesses from the Amish harness makers, but very few non-amish drive horses.

Gnerally the non-Amish in southern chester county are looking for a much, much higher quality of care than the amish provide.