Recent comments in /f/RhodeIsland

Loveroffinerthings OP t1_j3x5dty wrote

Reply to comment by newtoRI22 in Are Rhode Islanders entitled? by Loveroffinerthings

That’s true, it’s dangerous the way some stop. That merge in 37 in Cranston where they replaced the bridge has a stop sign now, it’s been about 4 times I’ve been stopped waiting for clear traffic and people will come to a stop to let me in. Coming to a stop there is crazy dangerous, not sure where that was taught in drivers Ed, but it is common to hold up a line of traffic to let one person go.

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[deleted] t1_j3x14fn wrote

Reply to comment by FoleyisGood in Are Rhode Islanders entitled? by Loveroffinerthings

Rhode Islanders are kind but not nice, as contrasted to many other regions that are nice but not kind.

RIers will help you fix a flat tire while telling you that you were kinda dumb for letting the air get so low and damaging the tire.

People from the south or the west coast will tell you how horrible they feel for you and they hope it gets better, while driving past you and not helping you with the tire.

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[deleted] t1_j3x0qfv wrote

Reply to Are Rhode Islanders entitled? by Loveroffinerthings

If you do the right thing with the expectation that others will fall over themselves to thank you, life will be disappointing.

If you do the right thing just because it is the right thing to do, life is better… and other people will be more likely do the right thing too, which means life becomes much better.

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newtoRI22 t1_j3wz58n wrote

Reply to Are Rhode Islanders entitled? by Loveroffinerthings

Regarding driving: no. I’ve just moved to the area. Never have I encountered so many people trying to let me into traffic when they actually have the right of way.

I wish people wouldn’t try to be “polite” about this stuff as I actually think it’s more dangerous. Pulling out of a parking lot the other day and traffic stopped in both directions to let me out. Stop stopping and just drive!

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Loveroffinerthings OP t1_j3wsf4w wrote

Reply to comment by Beezlegrunk in Are Rhode Islanders entitled? by Loveroffinerthings

It’s not really about people doing what they want, it’s thinking that what I’m doing as a nicety, should be expected from me. That’s why I use the holding the door example, because I could be a self absorbed dick and let the door close in their face, but I don’t, then to be ignored for holding up my day, even if for 5 seconds, is the entitlement. I’m all for people doing what they want as long as it’s civil and doesn’t harm others.

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Loveroffinerthings OP t1_j3wrqc8 wrote

Reply to comment by ncastleJC in Are Rhode Islanders entitled? by Loveroffinerthings

I mean, holding the door for ppl, letting them get ahead of you in line at the grocery store if you have 83 items and they have 2, letting ppl be a few minutes late to strict appointment times, donating my time and money to charities, I’d say my karma is pretty high. What my post is about, is ppl taking that for granted. I donated about $1000 to a local PVD charity, and didn’t get an acknowledgment, only a letter for tax purposes. I don’t donate for attaboys, but it would be nice to know that the charity received the funds, not just ignore it. In my business, my time is money, so when we say please arrive at 10am, and it’s 10:05 and we send a message asking where you are, you shouldn’t say, just leaving, be there in 10 minutes. Maybe I’m just too high strung in my platitudes about being a genuine nice person, that I feel others should reciprocate.

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Beezlegrunk t1_j3wnsbx wrote

Reply to Are Rhode Islanders entitled? by Loveroffinerthings

If you mean the libertarian sense of entitlement — that people can do whatever they want, and nobody else should say anything about it, then yes — and the comments on this sub regularly express / defend that perspective. It’s particularly intense in Providence, but hardly limited to the city …

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