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spoobles t1_jb5d4x4 wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Night life by [deleted]

>Idk if there’s any hope for me.

There is always hope. One of life's biggest lessons I've learned is, that you need to realize that making an ass of yourself (at first) isn't as huge of a deal as we all think it is. In the end the only one who cares about it is you. We're all scared and want acceptance. Confidence is incremental.

Two quotes I think of are "When you get out of your comfort zone your comfort zone gets bigger", and (Thanks to Adventure Time) "Sucking at something is the first step to being sorta good at something".

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skippyspk t1_jb58tfh wrote

Reply to comment by busback in Night life by [deleted]

Don’t listen to this poster. You’re going to look like an AH or a predator.

That being said, there could be some places where you can meet folks. The thing is, you can’t be there just to meet folks. Do something you like. Brewery tours! Church events! Satanic events! Pottery class! Volunteer!

The advantage of a dating app is everyone’s usually there for the same thing. You’ve cut through the song and dance up front and you don’t have to worry about offending someone by saying that they’re beautiful or how their eyepatch compliments their bangs or whatever.

But you pull that shit at a bar…wildcard.

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hudsonvalleygoddess t1_jb57483 wrote

Reply to Night life by [deleted]

I would absolutely seek out volunteer groups, hobby groups, classes, etc if you are looking for friendship and serious romantic partnerships. If you are shy, the volunteer groups will instantly give you a talking point with fellow volunteers and then you can feel out conversation. You might not end up dating anyone from the group but do you know who most volunteers are? Retirees and old ladies. Do you know who likes to match make? Old ladies. So you may end up volunteering at the hospital or museum with Agnes who has a single granddaughter.

My cousin moved to a new state and had a hard time meeting friends. She ended up joining a knitting group and when she told them she was thinking about moving back home their hearts were broken. They didn't want to lose a new and YOUNG member so they found her a date that led to marriage!

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vanlife22 t1_jb55vp9 wrote

Reply to comment by tiredofthisalready in Night life by [deleted]

My roommate is really lonely and checked out this meetup group thing and said it seemed really cool

She's a 23 year old girl and literally had a girl approach her to be friends. Never heard back, people are weird, it's hard making friends out there when everyone is busy staring at their phones

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WickedDog310 t1_jb52gi7 wrote

Katherine Gregg LOVES to criticize, which I have no problem with, but if you're willing to criticize the problem you have to be part of the solution. She never put forward alternatives. She's never seeking better more equitable solutions. She just loves to tear everything down.

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20_Twinty t1_jb52bm6 wrote

Reply to comment by Rideemcowboi in Night life by [deleted]

You kids are funny these days. The phthalates are doing a number on the mental aptitude of the next generation. Everything doesn’t have to be a political battle ya know?

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20_Twinty t1_jb5205o wrote

Reply to comment by OhItsNotJoe in Night life by [deleted]

Broadly generalizing 400,000 people based on their uniform is probably the dumbest fucking thing you could do. I bet you don’t even have 10 friends, but intricately know all 400k police officers and their ethical and moral compass? You have to be a true smooth brain to be this easily manipulated.

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