I do believe there is a mechanism for this but it is kept hidden. This thought did not come out of thin air.

> break a job down into multiple goals. Each time I achieve the next goal I get paid or I don't do the next go

That sounds very sensible. How might it work in practise?

My ex girlfriend hit her head on some concrete about a year ago.

Her personality changed completely. She went from a sweet, pleasant, and rational girl to talking about what color people's auras are and all kinds of random bullshit. She gets furious when confronted about any of this stuff but she doesn't stop coming up with weird shit to say.

All that to say this sounds just like something she would say now.

The same external volume maybe but not internally. Internally screaming at some idiot who cut you off is louder in thought than offering someone some free real estate

Just the law of averages, there’s billions of humans.

I call bullshit

One can have a terrible relationship with their parents and a beautiful one with their partner

I've seen it many times

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How do you think that would work? Fucking brain waves? There’s no mechanism for it. You can’t just make convoluted shit up and then act like you’re some visionary for saying something that doesn’t make sense

Why would anyone do that? How would that even work?

Like physiologically speaking, how would a human person, Homo sapiens, extract dissolved oxygen from water using their lungs?

The shower thought part is that if you don’t own a car you’ll have to walk around

It's beliefs like this that makes people who grew up in abusive families believe that nobody is ever going to want them. People can be better than their relationship with their parents.

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Then we'll never know for sure which eye has blinked more.

This is the kind of thing you can only believe if you were raised in a happy functional emotionally stable family.

I was terrified my girlfriend would believe this, when she saw me scream at the top of my lungs at my BPD mother who was prying into our relationship attempting to find weak points. I had to put up that performative rage to try and set some boundaries she would respect in a language that would shock her out of her jealousy at not being the center of attention. I needed to posture this way before she poisoned me and my GF's relationship like my mother has poisoned every relationship with every friend and coworker and family member she's ever had. She's got a twin sister and they've been in a no-contact status on and off dozens of times now.

Abusive, emotionally manipulative parents have installed certain triggers, shortcuts, and routines in their parent-child relationship over the years that a partner probably has no understanding of. Seeing something like the onramp to an entitled tantrum, tears, and forced appeal for sympathy coming a mile off, requires either sitting through that episode with the partner, or taking off, dropping some F-bombs, and cratering the road from altitude.

Some of us have to structure a lot of our behavior around remaining emotionally intact and never adopting the relationship dynamics of our parents. That doesn't mean it's possible to treat them like we treat everyone else. Doing that would have required becoming estranged many times over.

I wink so

Well this is gonna fuck with my OCD for a while

But still a good showerthought

See, I’d have called that a second job. How is it a “side” thing if it’s full-time?

delete is just a kind of special writes. Maybe Read Write Execute instead

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Lol! His mum does blow....

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Yes

My right for sure. I'll often keep my left closed while I'm reading.