And that's perfectly reasonable and acceptable

You actually get children that turn into adult children because they were never taught how to be adults. So they go into adulthood still "acting"

Well we do have different holes for that - nose for breathing and mouth for food.

The first part. That's what it is. That's all it is. But that's also all we need it to be. LLMs are just token weighting machine run on silicon. They can still output poetry. Our self-reflexive cognition is meaningfuly different but still the same kind of thing, inputs and calculation cascades which is how we decide to do A or B, which is free will.

You open an old school thermostat and you find a coil of metal that expands and contracts depending on the temp ans you say "wait, it's not really telling the temparature, it's just a piece of non-thinking non-calculating metal". But it is telling the temparature in the way we mean a thermostat tells the temparature, which is the only meaningful and important way we mean thermostats tell the temparature. You being sad their isn't a fairy in the box doesn't lessen what the metal coil is doing.

I have a friend whose dad left her family when she was super young and her mom ended up chasing and following any new man that happened to be in her life.

My friend ended up getting a great job after college, quit partying/drinking after college, and didn't spend a dime doing regular 20 year old things that I involved myself heavily in. She ended up buying a house in her mid 20s and getting married too.

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Not really. Some of us got to be children at later age. We act like such but also have a balanced decision making and adulting. Even for children is a good model to understand how to work in life with both sides and when.

That's the point of the post. Many people are not ready and give their kids trauma that force them to grow up too early while they carry effects of that harm the rest of their life

Dealing with a supply chain collapse when most people cant even cook well for themselves anymore is a harrowing reality to live in

Was just thinking this lol

You being able to identify and admit that is actually a huge step towards being able to handle it, ironically enough.

Good ol' life

How many parents did you raise?

Same. I’ve been exhausted since the 4th grade

Thats how it typically goes

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Bad times create strong people

Strong people create good times

Good times create weak people

Weak people create bad times.

Two important resources:

r/RaisedByNarcissists

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

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I realized how maladjusted I was because of this. It's why I have decided not to create a family of my own because I know that I'll be continuing this cycle onto my spawn. The buck stops with me.

This. Kids age you anyways. No thanks! Let me be a kid till I'm 90 with all the money for myself, wife, and furbabies.

If you raise your kids you can spoil your grand kids

If you spoil your kids you'll have to raise your grand kids

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Hey! That's the name of the show.

Same. Parents never got a job or grew up, deugs, partying, alcohol. I became hyper mature by 14, pushed myself insanely hard and achieved a lot by age 23. But the cost was huge, I could never relax or feel at ease. I didnt enjoy life, it was a struggle just get to safety.

It motivates me now to create a space for my kids to feel safe and secure, so they don't have to feel like drowning rats and can actually explore life.