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Avaunt OP t1_j6a3do2 wrote

Yeah, I’ve replied this a couple times, but the relationship with the mom in interesting and I don’t understand her at all. The dad’s stories have some balance between him trying to be a good dad and completely screwing things up. The good moments seem genuinely caring or at worst like he’s trying to make up for the bad bits. The moms interactions seem emotionally stunted without a scrap of nurturing in them. When the dad was going through alcohol withdrawal, I dont think there was any comfort from the mom at all. All of the “good” moments with the mom also seem a bit self serving. Even celebrating Christmas on Christmas was more for her than for the kids.

I wonder if the way she is portrayed is most indicative of the author’s relationship with her mom or her moms true self. Probably both.

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shredinger137 t1_j6a2k3p wrote

You only get to read so many words in your life. Make them ones you get something out of.

Now that something could be learning what you don't like in writing. Reading things you aren't into can have value. But that's up to you.

I'd also do some research to see if this book is a known but worth it slump.

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TheBSisReal t1_j6a2jn9 wrote

I feel like you’re mislabeling the culprit a bit: homophobia is why a lot of men don’t do affectionate bonds with each other. Whether or not someone reads a friendship with intimacy as gay is only problematic if you give in to internalized homophobia. Reading the relationship between Achilles and Patroclus as gay isn’t the source of that.

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Aranthar t1_j6a1ugl wrote

I'm in a book club of sorts and am picking this month's book. I would like to read and share a (auto)biography of Fredrick Douglas. Any recommendations are appreciated.

The book group is a bunch of college friends who read everything from Scifi to biographies to research works.

My initial list is:

  1. Frederick Douglass Prophet of Freedom By David W. Blight
  2. Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass, an American Slave By Frederick Douglass
  3. Life and Times of Frederick Douglass By Frederick Douglass
  4. Frederick Douglass in Ireland By Laurence Fenton
  5. Frederick Douglass By Benjamin Quarles

Input on these or other options are appreciated, thanks!

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Avaunt OP t1_j6a0z6w wrote

One of the things I wish I could understand is why someone who supposedly had grand detailed plans to build a “Glass Castle” couldn’t do something as simple as fixing the steps up to the house or insulating the roof. Even a bad attempt?

By all descriptions, he was fairly clever and decent with his hands. I think at least some of that was unearned boast, but a resourceful person can do a lot with a little knowledge and the time. (Even if the end result doesn’t necessarily meet safety regulations.)

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julien_et_mathilde t1_j6a0vcf wrote

I only mentioned black/white marriages.

According to this 2015 data, 17% of new marriages in the US were interracial and only 11% of those were between a black person and a white person. So less than two percent of new marriages were between a black person and a white person. That is rare.

The black population, which is mostly made up of people whose ancestors have been here for centuries, was shown to be intermarrying at a significantly lower rate than asian and hispanic people, most of whose ancestors would have immigrated much more recently. There is still very obviously a big racial divide.

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